My husband cannot stop cheaing on me

Betty writes, "I had long suspected that my husband was cheating on me with other women, escorts, call girls, and prostitutes. I started to collect evidence of his adultery to make sure that my suspicion was correct. I tried ignoring it but that's just to hard. So one day I made him sit down in front of him and I let it all out. I asked him questions from A-Z. At first he tried to get mad but when I told him all the things that I knew, he got quiet. I continued on with what was on my mind and heart and he still was lying in my face. He apologized for everything and then he asked for me to help him. I'm like; HELP YOU. What? Stop lying and be honest. But after all was said and done we looked past it but he hasn't changed since then. He is still doing the same thing. I just can't take this anymore. I'm trying my best to look away from this but it's too hard. I'm running out of ideas."

I think his behavior is confirming what you had suspected. Now I am sure that you can understand what would a man do in such cases. Everyone lies when they are doing something that they are not supposed to do.

Why is your husband with other women?

It is also important to remember that he has higher libido than you do and since he is not sexually satisfied he is looking for more sex. I think that is what he means by asking for your help. If you stop helping him he will go back to doing what he was doing and nothing good will come out of that. You have told me that you want to stay in this marriage and that is why being angry with him is not the answer. It is important that you ask him what help he needs and give it to him. Maybe he wants more sex or different type of sex, maybe therapy, maybe something else, but if you stop treating this as a problem, you cannot find a solution.

Different men have different sexual appetites and one way or the other they can figure out a way to satisfy it. If their wives do not cooperate (I know women who join their men and help them have sex with other women so that they know what is going on and make sure that the husband has sex with the right kind of girls rather than whores with sexual diseases), either they cheat or get a divorce.

What can a victim of adulterous husband do?

Betty, you have a lot of thinking to do. What are you willing to sacrifice to keep your marriage? Are you willing to change in some ways to keep your marriage or would you give up your marriage to keep your principles? I am not very confident that he will change completely and become the man that you want but what he wants is understanding from you so that he can still do what pleases him because he is addicted to them.