Stress is killing my sex life

Christopher writes, "Whenever I have something on my mind, my sexual appetite goes off completely no matter how I try to forget. What must I do to control this? Also my spouse seems to open up for me only to please me though she has no interest in making love at a particular time and this has become a habit. Therefore, I am losing touch in our sexual excitement. Please help."

Impact of stress on relationships

There is enormous evidence that shows that stress, worry, and insomnia can completely kill sexual desire and even cause impotency or erectile dysfunction. So you need to work on the root cause of your what is on your mind. I am not a stress expert but like anyone else I do have it as well as lots of worries.

Many people have found relief with yoga but I am more of the kind that likes to eliminate the root cause. A previous job that was driving me nuts, well, I quit and now have an awesome job here helping wonderful people like you. So try to identify the problem of your mind not being at peace and try to deal with it. Maybe it means a change of jobs or place or whatever it is. Having a spiritual outlook on life always helps.

Put yourself in your wife's shoes

Regarding your spouse, well, could it be that she too is experiencing anxiety, exhaustion, worry, stress, depression, etc.? Additionally, women's libido reduces with age. At that time many men are at their sexual peak and often experience frustration.

You need to work on your personal issues and try to understand those of your wife to see how you can help her without making her feel as if she is the problem.