How to manage an extramarital relationship?

Nina, a married woman has been in a 15-year relationship with another married man. It is not a secret and her husband, while very unhappy with the arrangement, is still married to her for the sake of kids. In my conversations with her, I have asked her to end the relationship because she is always frustrated not being able to spend enough time with him and is paranoid that he will leave her some day. She writes, "We went out again last time and had a good time, but again I have not heard from him for several days now. I want to see him. The thing is that when we were together we are able to compromise and resolve our disputes, but when I do not hear from him, I get anxious. Have I gone crazy? This is so confusing."

I think your problem is that you take this extramarital affair too seriously and you shouldn't because you both are married. This is a fling that seems to have lasted for a very long time. Maybe you two are in love but this relationship has no future.

How to have an extra marital affair?

I think if you expect less from him, you both can be happy and still carry on your extramarital affair. I think it is your fervent wish that he act like a husband that creates complications. Maybe it is easy for you to be in touch with him more often but remember that it may not be so easy for him. He has a wife and children to attend to.

While I would really like you to end this, but if you wish to continue, expect less from him and appreciate whatever time and attention you can get from him. That way you will enjoy the time you have with him rather than fighting why he can't spend more time with you.