Celebrities always want to be in the news. And Paris Hilton is a master at being in the news almost all the time. Her public relations staff definitely deserves a huge bonus.
So after starring in a controversial ad for a burger, Paris Hilton is back in the news. She is now reportedly engaged to Paris Latsis. It will be quite confusing though for everyone else when both of them around having the same name. And many fans of Paris Hilton are still confused how she got such an interesting name. Now they will wonder how Paris Latsis got his name. Many fans are asking how they will name their baby. Little Paris?
Like Paris Hilton, Paris Latsis is also filthy rich. If you did not know how rich Paris Latsis is, do not be shocked. Latsis Group (LG) is a large, international, diversified group of independent companies with activities in oil refining and trading, shipping, engineering consulting and construction, aviation and real estate with affiliated companies in the banking and financial services sector. LG has over 30 years of experience in oil refining and trading in Greece and the Middle East. Yiannis Latsis founded the Latsis Group and was counted among the wealthiest men in Greece. The Latsis name is known as much in Greece as are people like Bill Gates, Donald Trump, or Warren Buffet.
The couple has been dating for several months and their parents have no objection to their relationship. So apart from her new film "House of Wax," and the video for a burger, there is going to be plenty of news about Paris Hilton for a while.
Tuesday, May 24, 2005
A few things to know about chat rooms
- Even in a room focused on relationships, not everyone is looking for a relationship. There are all kinds of people that will be hanging out for their own reasons.
- Not everyone will be in the same geographic region. So for instance, in a Miami chat room, do not be surprised to see women from The Philippines and Latinos.
- Like anything else in finding a relationship, finding dates or online friends is about patience and strategy. So make sure that you do not give up before things start to happen.
- Get a separate email ID (preferably one that does not disclose your real name but also is not offensive in any way). So instead of John Doe, get an ID like johnD1234. Complete your profile with accurate information and include a good picture of yourself. However, for privacy reasons, it is OK to say Miami area, rather than give out your town or street address. And never disclose your employer.
- Pick a chat room carefully depending on what is important to you. If you like men who are interested in baseball, it is much better to visit sports chat rooms, preferably in your area.
- When you visit a chat room, spend a few minutes observing what is going on. Also always observe the rules of the chat room. For instance, if private messages are not allowed, do not send those.
- In any chat room there are always some people that make a lot of "noise" - ignore them. Others may be quietly watching what is going on (or waiting, like you, for someone interesting to arrive). These are the people you might want to approach. Sometimes you can check out their profile, so do it. Learn more about them. This is a great way to get an idea about gender, marital status, age, location, hobbies, etc. so that you can see if there is anything that attracts you. Send a private message that may say "Hello from Mary, 31, recently divorced in Miami area. Would you like to chat please?" By doing so you have been polite - that is key to meeting quality people. If you get a response, carry on the conversation; otherwise, move on. If you get a message (which in most cases will be something like ASL and that means age/sex/location), it is best to ignore them since these people do not know how to start a conversation with a human being.
- In some cases what I have found effective is that after you read a profile and find something that strikes you, it is a good idea that you mention that in your first message. Let me give an example. For example, this person has attended University of Miami and so have you. So it is much better to start off by saying "Hello from Mary, alumnus of University of Miami. Would you like to chat please?"
- If you get a private (and polite) message from someone that you do not wish to chat with (for whatever reason), be polite, thank her/him, and decline that you are not available for chat. For the same reason, if you are engaging in a private chat with someone and are too busy to respond to others, it is best to exit a chat room and carry on a private conversation. Continued presence in a chat room implies that you are available for a chat.
- Add that person to your chat friends list after asking for their permission. Also exchange email addresses, if that works out.
- After the chat is over, and if you hit it off, find out if s/he will be interested in chatting again. So either agree on a time to reconnect or get a sense of her/his usual time for chatting.
- Send a thank you note after the chat. This is also a great way to show that you are interested and confirm that the email address is valid.
- Do not give out your real name, physical address, employer name, telephone number, etc. unless you have known each other for a while.
- Do not send out photos that you would not like to be seen posted all over the Internet. Once you have sent something, it is out of your control (and often out of control of even the person who posted it someplace).
- If you do meet the person in real life, make sure that you talk on the phone first, and then meet in a public place, rather than going to a home.
- If you are committing adultery, it is important that you do not disclose any information that can come to hurt you. There is no reason to trust someone you just met on the Internet. It could very well be your spouse (it has happened in many cases).
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Wednesday, May 18, 2005
So what makes an interracial relationship successful. Willie Harmon reminds me that I might have missed a big point on the whole interracial dating scorecard and that is "acceptance." "If a man or woman was looking for love, acceptance of a person is the key. Those who choose to date only one race are prejudiced no matter how many friends of other races they have; to not be prejudiced, one would have to be open to all possibilities of becoming intimately involved with anyone they connect with regardless of skin color or national origin. The heart does not recognize skin colors, the brain does. Prejudice in not a heart's decision, it is a brain decision. A choice among people is for short or tall, fat or skinny, long hair or short hair; not whether you are white or not. It's time people start telling it the way it is." (Related article: Challenges of interracial dating)
I do find some of the points put forward by Willie Harmon as convincing - that we should open our hearts and mind and let it decide what it wants to do. In other words, we have to get rid of all preconceived ideas and biases about other people. It is not going to be easy. After all, we are full of impressions about everyone without even taking the time to validate them. As Willie Harmon continues, "People are prejudiced if they will not openly engage in a relationship with a person if everything else is desirable except the race. What the family or friends will accept is sustaining that prejudice and racial divide. This type of hateful behavior only breeds more hate, either from the victim(s) or the perpetrator(s)."
Willie Harmon goes on to say that "Now is the time to change the mind and hearts of everyone. There are educated and wealthy people from all walks of life. Judge me by what is in my heart and my actions, not by my skin." He may sound like he is a bit strong in his opinions but he is right. So let us get rid of the prejudices and biases and embrace anyone that we like no matter what they look like.
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Tuesday, May 17, 2005
So the next question that came to me was How to identify a desperate man? I think that, while I tried to answer this question to a woma.n but some of the elements will also apply to a desperate woman as well.
While there is no definite and final list available on what a desperate man looks like or how he behaves but here are a few signs to look for:
- Wants to enter into the next stage of relationship too soon.
- Spends too much time with you.
- Does not give you space.
- Give expensive gifts well ahead of their appropriate time.
- Weans you away from your normal routine, and your set of friends and family.
- Agrees to almost everything.
- Makes long-term plans for the future.
- Always eager to please even if you make unreasonable demands.
- Is always extra-sweet.
- Makes you the center of his life in no time.
Monday, May 16, 2005
Your nose, whether big or small, male or female, straight or gay, may play a big role in selecting your potential mate. According to scientists at the Monell Chemical Senses Center, body order is an excellent way to attract the type of partner you desire. Overall, odor preference was related to perceptions of odor pleasantness or unpleasantness, but not to odor intensity. Because the perceptual differences were related to odor quality, this suggests that at least some of the chemical attributes that contribute to human body odors are related to an individual's gender and sexual orientation. (Related article: Pheromones)
So how to use your body odor to your advantage?
Well, mind you, the scientists are not saying that you should not take a shower. What the scientists are arguing is that if you are in a situation where you need to attract a mate, do not mask your body odor, particularly from the armpits. It is important to understand that it is still considered impolite in professional situations that you have body odor of any kind. However, in more personal situations, it is not a bad strategy to subtly use your own body odor to seduce. Below are some tips on how to do it:
- Do not wear a fragrance or deodorant after taking a shower.
- Wear an outfit without sleeves.
- If it is appropriate in your culture, it is OK to leave your underarms unshaved (hairy underarms produce and retain more sweat).
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Monday, May 09, 2005
Let us review Lynn's case, who was a "happily divorced" woman until she started to be pursued by Michael, who had divorced just three weeks ago. "He actively persued me until I agreed to go out with him. We became inseparable until April when he broke down and told me that he cannot "do this" anymore. He said that he felt I would want more than he was prepared to give me commitment-wise. Since then, I have spoken with him a couple of times. He says that he needs space. Yet, he is very emotional and is crying whenever he talks to me. I have asked him if it is guilt and he says that it is only a part of it. I have told him that I don't blame him and that he needs to sort things through for himself. Should I leave him alone completely? Am I wasting my time? I have a lot of feelings for him but no anger. However, I am in a lot of emotional pain. I am hurt that he let it go this far and keep asking myself "why me" and "what did I do." I am trying to get on with my life but I have a knot in my chest that tends to overwhelm me. Please help me." (Related: How to handle emotional pain after divorce)
When people get a divorce or go through a breakup after a long period of being in a relationship, they feel a sense of emptiness that can be overwhelming. People react in one of the two ways.
- Some withdraw from relationships altogether since they lose trust in the value of a relationships.
- Others, get into a relationship with the first person that they meet with.
In case of the end of a relationship due to death of a partner, the mourning period is actually very helpful since it allows a person to take some time off from the stress of a relationship and start fresh after recharging. I personally recommend to all my clients that after an end to a relationship, they should simply take a 90-day break from a committed relationship even if they meet the perfect partner on the planet.
In your case, I suspect that he got into a relationship to fill the vacuum in his life and to satisfy his ego that even though his wife did not want him, he was still capable of having a relationship. As time passed, he realized that a relationship with you was not what he wanted. It may actually not reflect anything on you at all. It is just that he is now thinking more clearly. You may have done nothing wrong at all; it is just your misfortune that you ended up in this situation.
My recommendation is that you should simply leave him alone and try to move on. He may not be the same again and might be an emotional drain on you. Just take it as one of those life lessons learned - never date a desperate man.
- By Pierre Coda
Tuesday, May 03, 2005
Gaby writes, "He's a senior and I'm only a sophomore, but we're in one class together (because I'm taking hard classes). At our school, we have these retreats for sophomores, which are led by senior volunteers of this club he is in. So he ended up being my retreat leader. I was initially not excited about it, but I noticed that he asked me questions more than he asked anyone else in our group (maybe because he kind of knew me before though). We also ended up sitting next to each other quite a lot, and, again, making eye contact. That was when I started noticing him, and liking him. It was raining really hard that day, and we had to walk through the rain. I didn't look too good, but I was surprised at how nice he still was (but I guess he was supposed to be, since he was the leader). Anyhow, we had to do the sign of peace at the end, and I was totally not expecting it, but he gave me a really good and warm hug. I felt his hand linger on my back as I was stepping away. Does this mean anything, or is it just a hugging style some people possess? When we arrived back at school and started to walk to our lockers, he was ahead of me, but he turned around to look at me. I didn't feel like saying "hi" because I just saw him, but the next time we saw each other, I couldn't do it either. I see him often in class or in the halls (everyday), and I still haven't said "hi" yet. My friends tell me to just say "hi," but it feels weird to start saying it now, since I've never said it before. I just don't see why HE can't initiate the first exchange of greetings, especially since he's a guy and he's older. He knows I see him, and he looks back at me, but we basically just...STARE at each other! It drives me crazy! Also, I really think he knows I like him. But basically, I don't know what to do. Maybe I'm the one who has eye contact problems...hmmmm. Maybe there's some unstated rule about dating younger girls in high school. Man, I'm so bad at this game. Please give me some advice."
While Gaby's problem sounds trivial, it is not. In fact I have helped many adults deal with problems like this. Regarding the hug, I would say that generally it does mean a lot. You can feel the warmth when it is genuine and since you felt it, I am guessing that he was trying to send a subtle message to you. Of course, some people are just warm by nature and put their heart into a hug, and that is great since you know that you are dealing with a warm person even if this specific hug was nothing special.
It is perfectly fine to start saying Hi even now. There is absolutely nothing wrong that you have done by holding back so far. If things work out with him, you can simply confess to him later that you were just shy to do it. It happens all the time. When we genuinely like someone, we often get tongue-tied; even grownups. (Related article: How to overcome shyness?)
There is another idea that you have to get out of your head. Just being a man or being older than you does not mean much. Men and women can be shy at any age. And older boys can be shy too. So if you move forward one step he may move three step forward. But if you stay still, he may be scared of even taking the first one. So by greeting and smiling, you will give the right signals for him to make a move and then you should reciprocate.
So what I would suggest is that the next time you see him, and when you make eye contact with him, please smile. I know you are probably nervous just thinking about it but the smile will come naturally when you feel in your heart that you want to give yourself to him. And then smile again every time you see him and try small talk with him. If nothing, it is always easy to talk about school or classes or sports or weather or anything that two human beings can talk about without being in love. And try to make it easy for him. So if he is shy to approach you in front of other folks, then try to run into him in a place where you both can be "alone" without too many people. For instance, in an aisle in the library.
Hopefully he will get it and take the next step and things will work out for you.
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- by Pierre Coda