A recent survey by Daily Mail shows that women are leading happier, more confident sex lives, with 62 per cent saying making love leaves them satisfied. Only 54 per cent of men could say the same. The survey suggests women are becoming more demanding about sex. A full quarter of the women actually want to have it daily. The male sex drive remains unchanged, however, with just under a third wanting to make love every day. Some women are becoming so independent about their needs that 57 per cent of them had no regrets about one-night stands.
So what is your idea of a great night with your partner?
Demi Moore, who is dating a much younger Ashton Kutcher, has some ideas. Moore says in an interview that a good night with Kutcher is spent "sharing a bath with one another and watching Court TV. Snuggling up naked."
Here are some more ideas that LuvCube members have contributed:
- Make out on the grass in your backyard or (if safe and if privacy is assured) at a picnic spot.
- Massage each other followed by a night of passion.
- Assuming roles for each of you and act it out followed by seduction sequence.
Friday, August 12, 2005
I am so glad to hear all the happy stories of couples exploring relationships without the constraints of age difference. I heard a beautiful story today from Ally, who dated a 21-year old, when she was 36. She was definitely ahead of the times since that was 8 years ago. Only during last three years have we really seen an explosion in these mature-young relationships and now they even have a term for it: inter-generational relatioships.
Ally said no to him for 18 months at that time but his persistence won her over. She never thought it would last and they dated only briefly - 3 months. Time went by, and almost like a movie, she ran into him recently a few times - the difference being that he is now divorced and has a 5-year old in his custory. First at a ball game and then at a club on two separate occasions in two separate towns. "We hooked up this past weekend and there seems to be a connection again...I don't want to be a fool again with him, but he does something to me, always has. In your opinion (he's 29 now, and I'm 44), what is the reality now?" she asks. (Related article: Dating for single parents)
Life sometimes has interesting turns and this is one of them. I would say that you should explore if there is stronger chemistry than just casual attraction to an "old flame." (Related article: Be careful dating just divorced men)
Regarding the age difference, I would not make an issue out of it. It wasn't an issue 8 years ago for either one of you (at least less so for him, maybe somewhat more for you, it seems), and it should not be an issue now either except that you both are more mature (and wiser) now.
It is hard to meet good people these days and if there is chemistry then you must give your whole to it. In any case, serendipidity is on your side.
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Tuesday, August 09, 2005
"I have never cheated in my life, and I do not think I can do it in the future. Leading a double life is not for me. What I can do is to divorce my husband and marry another man. But here I have another problem. I cannot live alone. It is not about money; I can earn my living since I am a professor. I have never been alone, and loneliness frightens me. So the only way for me, as I understand, is to find a good and loving father for my child and husband for me. Please, do not blame me for being too practical. I am a mother, my son is what I must care about," she says.
I totally understand what Olga is saying and I support all of her decisions. I think she is doing the right things. There is no point in staying with a man who abuses his partner.
In my previous articles I have said that based on my experience that age is less and less of an issue for most men and women now. But is 20 too young to think of a long-term committed relationship with a woman who also has a son? Olga fears so. "But he is only 20 and wants to take things easy for a while. Is he able to take responsibility and have a family? Yes, he is nice and patient to my son, but he does not live with us, and it is quite a different thing," she says.
Yes, it is hard for a man to think of a wife and son at the age of 20 and that is going to be a challenge for you with this man. In my opinion, if Olga has a friendship with him for a long time then he will not only get used to the idea of being with someone who is older than him but also start realizing that marrying this wonderful woman and living with her son is also a great idea.
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Wednesday, August 03, 2005
Aniston's interview highlights very clearly how a couple can never really erase their past relationship. When we get into a new relationship our new partners expect us that we can simply wipe all the memories and start over, but that is not the case. Most people always think of their previous relationships - after all they were in love with that person at one time and even planned on spending their whole life with them. (Related article: Marriage is a big responsibility)
In another startling disclosure, Aniston also dispute the rumors that disagreement over pregnancy was the cause for divorce. Of course, the whole Brangelina thing is another major source of pain for Aniston, particularly ongoing rumors that Brad Pill and Angelina Jolie may move in together or she may be pregnant. Talking about the spread in W magazine that shows the two as a happily married couple with children, Aniston says, "There's a sensitivity chip that's missing."
Finally let me mention something else here that I have been preaching for a while. When you do get out of a relationship, the last thing you want to do is to get into a new one simply because you are not used to being alone or you can't cope with being single. Aniston says that she is no rush to get into a new relationship right away. (Related article: Dating for divorced people)
The interview is a painful reminder of what a woman goes through in a divorce drama. My advice to all the men who are contemplating a divorce is to understand that a woman has a heart and you are not being a gentleman by hurting her. It is acceptable to have a divorce but you can be more sensitive about your partner.
Update December 2006: Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn breakup
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