Make your relationship exciting as a couple

“My relationship has become stale. After 7 years of marriage, I feel that I need to do something different. I love my husband, but I am afraid things are not going well. There is no excitement anymore. Do you have any suggestions on how I can improve my relationship?” Natasha writes.

A lot of couples go through this phase several times in their relationship. There is good news, though. Usually this means that the relationship is stable and strong. It is just that there is nothing exciting going on either way - positive or negative. This may actually be a good time to look at your own life first. Here is a series of questions that you may want to ask:

1. How can you have a more “exciting life?”
2. Are you happy with yourself?
3. What happened to your goals and dreams?
4. If your life continues, as it is, 10 years form now, Will you look back and say, “I had a great life”?
5. What about your husband? Is he happy with his job?
6. Do you share hobbies?
7. Do you enjoy trying new activities together?
8. Do you talk and share? Do you devote time to nurture your relationship?
9. Are both of you too tired at the end of the day to talk like a couple or to make love?
10. Do you enjoy small rituals at home, such as special meals every day, fresh flowers, nature walks, etc?
11. Are you frequently worried about money?

I do not think that is only the relationship that goes stale. When a relationship appears to be stale and dull, it is because the lovers may be a bit bored with their lives and need excitement. Bring the excitement back to your life and help your husband find his true passion too. At the same time, devote more quality time to each other. If this means working less and spending less money, it is OK, because it is worth it. When two people in love do even something as basic as going out for an ice cream or a walk in the park, it can be very romantic.

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