Cindy is a 22-year old and went for a job interview. Well, she didn't get the job but her potential boss fell in love with her (it was not an office romance and she was not technically dating a colleague). "It was love at first sight," she says. "He started calling me constantly, met my parents, and then proposed me to marry him. BUT, the problem is that he is 43 years. He looks young but I don't know whether our marriage can be succsessful? I don't know what to do! He is very clever, rich and I am a simple, poor girl who wants to have a happy life. I am so confused. If I marry him, my life will change, but I also wonder what will I do with this old man. Please help."

We have heard from many women who not only had a great marriage with older men but liked them better than younger men - these men were more mature, confident, and loving. The question you have to ask is If you love this man regardless of his age. If the answer is yes, then it makes a lot of sense to marry him. Though you must understand that he is more than 20 years older than you and you will have many opportunities to find men your age (you can sign up for free dating at our website) since you are still too young to get desperate for marriage. Being with someone who is quite older or younger than you does present some problems but so does a partner of your age.

I have written previously for the beneift of those women who wonder if their partner is gay, particularly if he wears feminine underwear or likes to take care of himself or is just a little feminine and enjoys wearing lingerie. In most cases, they are worrying about the wrong person. Such men are either metrosexuals or simply exploring their feminine side.

On the other hand, research shows, millions of men are actually gay, but pretending to be straight or are in denial about their orientation. High profile examples include evangelical leader Ted Haggard, former Congressman Mike Huffington, and former New Jersey Governor Jim McGreevey. Bonnie Kaye, the author of "Is He Gay? A Checklist of Women Who Wonder," has some tips to find out if you are stuck with someone who is a closeted individual:

• If your husband thinks you are a nymphomaniac or "pushy and aggressive" because you want sex twice a week.
• If physical intimacy steeply declines within the first few years of marriage.
• You're always more active in the bedroom than your husband.
• If your husband is turned off by the thought of touching your private area or performing oral sex on you.
• If his best friend is gay and he often hangs out with him and his friends.
• If he is excessively homophobic, mocking and imitating other gay men (that was what Ted Haggard did and build a little empire for himself by urging clueless Christians to join him in his homophobia).
• If he brags about gay men complimenting him on his looks.

We at LuvCube publish selected stories about love and relationships. Here is a beautiful and inspirational story of Ingrid.

"I was always attracted to older men. It's not just physical attraction; I was always more mature than my age and couldn't see myself with younger guys.

I often wonder what exactly is considered a large age gap? 5 years? 10 years? 35 years? I'm not sure if anyone can explain where the designation would start. People who are on the same spiritual and intellectual levels don't have to be the same age to have a meaningful relationship. I don't think age is as important as maturity and compatibility. Love is love. When you are in love, what can you do? Love has no age. Age is an issue only when you want it to be an issue.

I am now in a relationship with a man 25 years older (I am 25) and I couldn't be happier. It’s an interesting experience in some ways because of the challenges it brings. I also believe that opposites do attract, sometimes. We have a wonderful relationship and a passion for each other. We both love each other. We rarely fight, and just because we try to resolve our problems, we both know how to find a compromise. I can share ups and downs of life with him, we both have a good sense of humor, we mutually respect each other, we have a lot of good/bad times, but we learn from and grow stronger every time. We have differences in many things but it also gives us the chance to share each others interests along with the interests we have together. Everybody has experiences - some good, some bad.

Relationships with age gaps are not for everyone, but if you think you can manage it, then why not? I think our life together is fantastic, despite our little problems and I can tell that I 'm a woman who intends to spend all my life with him. But sometimes he feels insecure (How to deal with insecure men?) that in the future, I will be unhappy and regret the decision to be with him and he doesn't want to have to go through that. We're both truly in love right now and I can't think about anybody or anything else rather than making a life with him.

Everybody irrespective of their age is able to fall in love and be loved. There is no reason why this feeling should not make them happy. The relationship can survive when you look over the age difference and see each other as two loving people with pounding hearts and romantic feelings. We've been together for almost 2 years and I am still madly in love with him."

Men not only appear to have commitment phobia, they some times even do not want to admit that they are dating someone. Laura recently ended up with a guy like that. While Karl was sweet to her and treated her well when the two of them were together, but would never offer to hang out with friends and family members. Then one day she found out something even worse. Read it in her own words.

"Karl is a an actor and the other day I decided to surprise him by going to his show. During the intermission, I sent word backstage that I was in the audience. After the show was over, I went to meet him. He introduced me to a few of his cast members but one girl asked if I was his girlfriend, and I just heard him say, "I told you already I don't have a girlfriend." I said goodbye and left. I decided that I'm taken for granted by this man. We have done everything that couples do and he still thinks that we are not in a relationship. I don't knw if I should cut him off completely or just have him as a friend. What do you think?"

My Advice

You know "I told you already I don't have a girlfriend" is the operative expression. In other words, either he is just using you or does not think of you as girlfriend material, of even worse, he has another girlfriend.

I know it takes a while before you start to publicly introduce your girlfriend and in that situation, he should have said, "Yes, that is the beautiful lady I am dating right now and I am so happy." That way you are still not saying that you are in a serious relationship but you are not treating the woman like a piece of garbage either.

My recommendation would be that you let him go - if you continue to be with him, he will simply assume that you are desperate and continue to humiliate you like this. If he is dating you, he should have had no problems saying that you two are dating right now - even if he did not want to introduce you as his girlfriend.

I know it is going to be hard but maybe it is time to move on.

I like to publish stories of people who have found love despite a wide age gap. Here is a beautiful story from Hillary.

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I am 66 yrs old, widowed with 2 grown children. I am seeing a man 11 years younger. I was married to a man 17 years older. This man and I are amazingly compatible, we talk and listen to each other. We spend a great deal of time together. He was attracted to me because I am intelligent and well spoken. I am a good listener willing to spend as much time as he needs to talk.

He is a man used to women in their 30s, 40s, and maybe early 50s. He has struggled with our relationship, trying to accept our age difference, body differences, (I'm older, heavier, though younger looking with very little gray hair. I could easily pass for 55). I've decided to listen to him, be a support for his life and problems, care for him when he needs it and allow him plenty of space to deal with his confusion. He loves me, I love him. I plan to enjoy him however long this relationship lasts. Thank you for your wonderful articles, they offered reassurance to my situation.

When a woman is in a relationship with a significant age gap, she has two major concerns: Is this man going to leave me for a younger woman and If he is simply using me? Carla has the first issue to deal with. She writes, "I am not yet 40 and my new boyfriend (of 2 months) is six years younger. When we met, I really thought he was about my age. We are fine with this age disparity. He's divorced; has already been a step-father to a boy whose mother is 8 years older than my boyfriend. Children are not my top priority. I have had more years of a career than in a truly loving relationship. I'd like to have lots of time with this person before thinking about kids. The niggly thought is: at 40, will he leave me to have a family with someone who is still able? This fear is what has me thinking of putting the brakes on; even breaking up with him. I would really appreciate any info you may be able to share with me."

Indeed, your prospects of getting pregnant are rapidly declining and I am sure that he understands this. If he has chosen to have a relationship with you, he fully understands that kids are probably out of question, at least not without some kind of fertility treatment.

So if you like him, I would say that there is no reason to breakup based only on a baseless fear. There are so many reasons that a man may end a relationship and this is just one of them. So be positive and give your best to the relationship. If he wants other kids and loves you, adoption is one option, but I am sure that he is not interested in more kids - he wouldn't be "wasting" his time with you.

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So please take a look at LuvCube dating website and if you are looking for friends or love, do sign up. And regardless of what you do, do not forget to tell others about it.

How to approach a woman already in a relationship but sends right signals

It is not easy to ask a woman to dump her boyfriend or expect a married woman to get a divorce even though she is clearly interested in a relationship with you. While you may lose an opportunity, you may also end up making a fool of yourself.

Paul has a similar dilemma. He says, "I have this girl here at my college. She is in a long distance relationship. However, she has flirted with me often and even stated that she has feelings for me and has thought of me when she was alone. She even text-messaged me saying she couldn't sleep because she was thinking about me. We get along very well and even sat down and talked and laughed for about four hours because we lost track of time. I like her personality because she is so outgoing and I must admit she isn't bad on the the eyes either. She has stated that she likes my personality as well. She likes her current boyfriend, of course, and I am not the type to make her cheat or breakup. I respect her and her dating choices, but I can tell she feels something for me as well. I don't know if I should make a move and convince her I could be better than the man she is with. I also don't know if I am just a fall-back guy because her boyfriend lives so far away. I just don't know and don't have enough insight on women to make a decision. I like her and she stated she likes me as well. I ask you Should I make a move? And if yes, then should it be straightforward or more passive? I would really appreciate your input."

My question is What did you do/say to her when she said/did all these things. Is it a possibility that you did not reciprocate her declaration of feelings for you? If so, she may be wondering that you do not like her enough yet and that is why the relationship has not gone anywhere.

Please do let her know that you feel about her the way she feels about you. You can do that by either telling her in person or writing it down in a card or by starting to flirt back with her. I would say that at this stage it is best that you do not "make a move" as such but reassure her that the passionate feelings are mutual and you are as much into her as she is into you. At that point she may be able to make up her mind but there is a possibility that she likes the other guy even more and is simply entertaining herself by flirting with you - you just need to be prepared for this reality and the resulting disappointment.