So it turns out that more of us are cheating and the Internet and other communication technologies are helping us. National Science Foundation and University of Chicago have found that infidelity is rising among older men and young couples.

The other very interesting part is that women are now cheating more often. The data from the research shows that about 10% of married people — 12 percent of men and 7 percent of women — say they are sleeping with someone they are not married to.

I think adultery is not necessarily unhealthy for a relationship if it is done to get what is not available in your relationship (Related: When is adultery acceptable?). Rather than suffer and get depressed, it may be perfectly alright to get it some place else.

Let us say that you enjoy certain type of bedroom adventure and your spouse does not want to participate. Guess what? It is perfectly fine to try it with someone else. Most people who have written to me after taking this approach have found that it only strengthened their marriage and they found that they were happier overall. Will and Jada Pinkett Smith seem to have a very open relationship because they can talk about these things.

Lillian writes, "I have been liking this guy for a while and it seemed like he liked me back. We would flirt constantly and it seemed as if he was going to ask me out. Then suddenly he lost all interest. It's been a couple weeks and I still like him. What should I do and what did I do wrong?

A couple of things may have happened since you were at such an early stage of dating.

1. He was doing the same with more than one girl and someone else somehow won the battle. Maybe she and him were more compatible or she was more aggressive in pursuing him.
2. Something went wrong between the two of you. It could be something that you did or said or he simply did not like something about you. I remember one girl that I lost interest in once I discovered her personal hygiene habits.
   
3. Something else has happened that has made him busy or put his dating plans on hold. It could be something at work or family life or whatever.

Since you are in an unknown territory here, it is best to email him just asking him how he has been doing and if everything is well. Do not mention anything about seeing him again or even hinting that you are still waiting to be asked out. Maybe you will learn more about what happened (e.g. if he just lost his job or a family member is not well) or if he is otherwise fine but sends you simply a polite reply, it means that he is not interested romantically in you.

Time to move on then.

I have heard from hundreds of people who have written to say that arranged marriage has worked for them. Of course, any marriage can fail but one of the biggest advantages of a marriage based on love is that you get to know the person before you commit to being married to her or him for the rest of your life. While people change over time, at least you get to know the major attributes of one's personality.

Since this is not possible in an arranged marriage, one of the readers of my blog, Jayson, has gotten into a lot of trouble with his . "During 10 years of our marriage, I have never been able to be fully physically intimate with my wife. She simply does not like sex and thinks that it is something dirty. She not only has no interest in romance with me, she even refuses to try. Basically once in a while we talk but from a distance. She doesn't like me touching her at all. Since she does not even want to see me without clothes, we have never really seen each other. I would be so happy to have a normal wife that I can love and please, while she does the same to me. I cannot even share this information with anybody and that is why for 10 years I have been quietly suffering. What can I do? I am ready to do anything to help her change her personality and just be a normal woman," he writes.

The bad news is that your wife is very sick (please consult a doctor since I am not one) and it will take years of therapy for her to cure. I would, therefore, strongly suggest that you get a divorce and move on with your life. If you have kids, fight for custody, so that her illness does not destroy the life of your children.

There are several possibilities why this might have happened. Maybe she is a lesbian. There is also a possibility that she has been raped and sexually abused as a child. Such trauma can do lifelong damage to one's personality.

She will need to consult with an experienced psychiatrist experienced in such issues. Therapy can take a lot of time and it is very unlikely that she will ever be a "normal" person. Her problems are so deep that there is little that you can do without professional help.

To me the Valentine's Day is an opportunity to spend quality time with someone you love. Since we have expended the definition of Valentines Day and it is no longer just about someone you love romantically, it is perfectly fine to celebrate it with your family members.

The last thing that comes to my mind is to be with old, white, angry. full of hate Republic men like John Ashcroft, Tom Tancredo, and Ed Meese. Either you must be dull and boring like them to torture (yes, Ashcroft will force you to speak in tongues) your Valentine by going on a cruise with them or you are one of them. I feel sorry for you and your Valentine.

Girls really love nerds and geeks

So often it appears as if the nice guys finish last and the smooth-talking loser gets the girl. It turns out that it is yet another myth in the world of dating.

A new study says girls choose geniuses over dumb jocks not just for one night stands but also for long term relationships. Why would that be? Remember that whether they know it or not, women are always looking for a reliable, stable, financially secure father for their child, and it does not matter how cute or charming or funny a man is, if he is incapable of providing for her and her baby, she is not interested in him.

So all those shy nerds and geeks, it is no longer necessary for you to try to be what you are not and instead just be the smart and intelligent man that you are. Use your knowledge and intelligence to impress her with your intellect, and trust me, she will be yours. And then a nice guy can finish first.