Brittany writes, "I am 14 and am really close friends with this guy. For the past 6 months I have started to like him more than a friend. We have started having pretty raunchy conversations on MSN and we have done some things we shouldn't have on webcam. I've told him I like him, and he says he loves me as a friend, but we're not the same type. Everyone I know thinks that he likes me, and he is always telling one of both of our best friends that girls are confusing. Whenever I confront him about me liking him he ignores it. I NEED HELP! I am going crazy, and I can't get over him."

First of all, you are just 14. So take a deep breath and realize that you are just a kid and so is the guy that you like. There is so much more for both of you to learn about each other and relationships, that it is best not to make it more complicated than it needs to be when you are just 14.

Secondly, it seems that you two already are pretty close and I guess that is good enough for your age. Please respect his wish that he only likes you as a friend and by forcing yourself on him, you cannot make him like you more. On the contrary, he might start to think that you are desperate, needy, and have no self respect. He has told you and your friends that he wants to be your best friend but that does not mean that you should take it as if he wants to be your boyfriend.

I think it is time for you to slow down. You have a long life ahead of you and boys will come and go. Yes, he maybe nice and likable, but at his and your age, there is so much going on, that the last thing he may want is a needy, desperate girlfriend like you.

So wait for someone with whom the chemistry will be mutual and he will pursue you rather than you sounding needy and hopeless. That is how it always has been and men love it that way too. You are still very young to get so worked out. Trust me, you will have many more opportunities in life. More than you can handle and wouldn't know how to turn away all those guys begging you.

How do I make a married boy friend love me more than his wife?

If there is a man that is still married to a woman the chances are that he loves her a lot and is only lying about it to have you as a lover.

Assuming that he is not lying, then you have to do what his wife does not. It can be the intensity of your love, or the way you have sex, or the gifts that you give, or the things that you do for him.