Tina tells me, "I am a Caucasian lady. I have been dating a Chinese man for many years, and I have to agree that he is respectful and a true gentleman. His parents did not approve of us at first, but over the years realized that he really loves me.
We will be getting married next year and I am really happy. I love the strong family values that are part of the Asian culture. I really feel that I would have a tough time finding a quality man of this caliber in my Caucasian dating network."

A reader shares his thoughts on preference for women.

"I feel comfortable with Asian girls. Yet I can't feel anything with Western women. They are sexless to me. My last Western girlfriend was in 1988. A long time ago! Now, the mere sight of an Asian girl excites me. She excites me because of her physical features. They enchant me deeply and fascinate me beyond sensibility. As I told you the highest form of womanhood is to be a Japanese woman. There's a cultural "something" which sets them apart. I am very lucky to have met several dear and charming Japanese women over the Internet.

Back to my Western friend. We have tried to share a lot about women and men. She strongly believes that if there were a third sex, then men would be made redundant. But, she says, "Apart from men, what choice do we have??" So it's a desperate choice for her. Again I sense her bitterness. I was drinking wine with her the other night and her husband was out on yet another eternal boys' night. She desperately needs someone to touch her heart and rekindle the flame there. I feel so sorry that her life is so empty of powerful emotions. She seems so let down by life. I feel I let her down by not marrying her and that she then made a bad choice in men with him.

A woman on the Internet told me the "key to my success" with women. She said, "You go straight for the heart, don't you?" That men want women to be like themselves. But women are different emotional creatures. I never go for a woman physically. I've never been attracted to attractive women. But every woman has a very beautiful heart full of rich love and emotions. Women's hearts are so beautiful. I love them dearly. I feel men have no heart. But, my married friend likes that. She likes the 'roughness' of men."

Dora, a Hispanic girl obsessed with Asian guys, says, "I am a nurse so I know plenty of Asian guys (there are a lot of Asians in the medical field). I also have lots of Asian friends; FRIENDS sadly :-(. Most of them date Asians; Asian girls are tough competition; they are so pretty. At the moment I think I'm going to take like a little time to get myself to a healthier weight. Maybe that way I can catch a pair of Asian eyes. I also am very shy, so it's very hard for me to talk to guys."

Well that is so great since you don't have to go looking elsewhere. But there is no need to wait till you lose weight because if you wait there will always be something or the other that you will see as a barrier. So go right ahead and start the game.

And yes, many Asians do gravitate towards Asian girls but isn't that true for Latin (or for that matter any race or ethnic group) men too? However, there is always someone who might like you; so do not get discouraged if you are perceived as an outsider and get rejected a few times.

And I hope you can overcome your shyness.

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Marcela writes, "I absolutely adore Asian men. I want to marry one and having . Now my question is How do I find one? Are they attracted to Hispanic girls?"

Yes, as an Asian man myself I can say that I love Hispanic girls. Actually I am married to a Latina.

So, if you are interested in Asian guys then you need to be where Asian men are. If you live in a town with an Asian population, you have a place to get started by visiting some of the restaurants and nightclubs where Asians hang out. Attend cultural events of Asians and If there are no Asians where you live, I suggest online dating websites that have Asians.