Dora, a Hispanic girl obsessed with Asian guys, says, "I am a nurse so I know plenty of Asian guys (there are a lot of Asians in the medical field). I also have lots of Asian friends; FRIENDS sadly :-(. Most of them date Asians; Asian girls are tough competition; they are so pretty. At the moment I think I'm going to take like a little time to get myself to a healthier weight. Maybe that way I can catch a pair of Asian eyes. I also am very shy, so it's very hard for me to talk to guys."

Well that is so great since you don't have to go looking elsewhere. But there is no need to wait till you lose weight because if you wait there will always be something or the other that you will see as a barrier. So go right ahead and start the game.

And yes, many Asians do gravitate towards Asian girls but isn't that true for Latin (or for that matter any race or ethnic group) men too? However, there is always someone who might like you; so do not get discouraged if you are perceived as an outsider and get rejected a few times.

And I hope you can overcome your shyness.

A mature woman that loves attention from young boys, as she calls them, writes:

"I continue to get attention from 20 year olds - and am online with a 24 year old Italian who seems quite smitten - even webcammed with him this morning before I combed my hair to be told I was very pretty! It certainly does my ego good - especially with my boyfriend coming next week. Older women have a lot to offer younger men. I think older women, being free of the concerns for family that younger woman have, and also being more at peace with themselves, may be able to fulfill most of their needs better."

A mature female fan of mine writes:

"Maybe my beauty is the main reason I am approached so often - the guys find me attractive and sexy - I am not saying that is a universal experience for older women. There is no doubt that I am also approached because I am mature and intelligent (Many women, unfortunately, do not realize what a turnon these things are in a woman for a real man and end up getting too bogged down with their outfits or makeup or the layers of fat on the tummy or whatever other insecurities they have), and in a few cases because I have financial and other resources. A lonely horny young man would rather have the companionship of a good looking older woman than just an older woman, and I still have a body that gets looked at. I have found that stating up front that I do not engage in casual intimacy turns off only the "grosses" enquirers and likely attracts more than it outs off. I am first looking for relationship and honesty - then whatever follows. It seems most appreciate that."

Why do I attract only bad women?

Tony writes, "I tend to attract bad women. I do not flirt or anything. However, a few years ago some women said "Hi sexy" as I walked by. This was strange. Others make fun of the way I walk. I am young and in college. What should I do about this. Some of the women have been really rude."

I don't think you attract bad women. First of all, forget what happened a few years ago (even if it was pleasant) because things change over time. Secondly, don't pay too much attention to how others are reacting and behaving. A lot of time girls can get mean just because you ignore them (yes, that is why you might want to consider flirting). They think that you are arrogant if you don't go and beg for their attention.

I guess just be yourself and relax. Chances are that a girl will like you for who you are and you can fall in love with her.

Regarding your walk, you can meet with a physiotherapist and make sure that there is nothing wrong with your posture.