I like to believe that we should be romantic to our partners every day. And definitely there is no excuse for being mean the rest of the year and then making up for it on Valentine's Day or wedding anniversary.

In any case, having a great Valentine's Day is one of telling your partner how much you care. And despite all the advertising that women will be happy only if they receive a diamond or lingerie or chocolate, the reality is that any woman is smart enough to figure out the thought.

Watch this great video from Colin Cowie on how to organize a great Valentine's Day meal.

My sister-in-law got a divorce. While I had a great relationship with her ex-husband (as far as I was concerned, he was a great guy), when the process moved forward, I had no choice but to be on the side of sister-in-law. I had to stop all communication with him because having even a casual acquaintance with him would have hurt my sister-in-law. A few years later they have a horrible relationship and often face problems while raising their 3 daughters. Sometimes I just wonder if I could pick up the phone or have a beer with her ex and help him better deal with the problems that they have because they do not even look at each other any more (they only communicate through their children). Here is a great video of Jill Brooke and Julie Chen that talks about divorce and relationships without choosing sides.

By attending a mass divorce fair. Like the mass weddings often organized by religious or social groups, this event will enable couples having problems in their marriage to seek counseling, get a painless divorce, learn to move on after a divorce, and deal with issues like personal finance, child support, and singles vacations. Austria has the same rate of divorce as the United States.

Did you know that having problems in your relationship could hurt your health to much that you could die from it. Latest research published in the Archives of Internal Medicine finds that "negative close relationships" boosted the risk of coronary events by a third.

"Previous research in this area focused more on philosophy," said Robert De Vogli, a lecturer in social epidemiology at University College London. "It was assumed that if you were married, you were more likely to be healthy. It was well established that social relationships are important for health."

This finding means that if you are in a relationship (if you are single try our free dating website) that is not going so well, you can do one of the two things: Fix it by seeking help from marriage counselors, family members, and friends, or simply end it. There is absolutely no reason to drag it and be miserable. I know many couples do it for the sake of children or due to financial considerations, but this finding shows that you would be better off either fixing it once and for all by making compromises and resolving conflicts or getting a divorce.

I have found in my research while talking to hundreds of people, including couples, is that if you simply talk about it, problems can be resolved. So when your partner comes to you and says, "Honey, we need to talk," pay attention, then absorb the information, and finally share your thoughts. It is also good to respond later rather than right away so that you have had time to think about it. In other words, literally, communication can do wonders to a relationship. Watch this video interview with Kate White, editor of Cosmopolitan magazine, in which she lays out the rules for communication for couples.

To keep a relationship passionate, a couple must spend quality time together, and as they say about reaching a man's heart through his stomach, food is important. But as everyone will agree with me, by the time you end up cooking a gourmet meal at home, half the passion is gone. Of course you can eat at a restaurant but what if that restaurant was designed exclusively for couples and every dish had an aphrodisiac in it?

That is exactly what the Aphrodisiac restaurant does (or you can buy oysters fed with Viagra). The couple sits on a table that reminds them of a luxurious bed and then the fun begins. Strongly recommended when you are in Los Angeles (10351 Santa Monica Blvd; phone number 310-282-8870). Here is a video.

Many couples find that they don't spend enough time together (or as a family if you have children) and if you choose to spend whatever time you have at home, you might end up watching television or surfing the Net or fixing things around the house. That is why in order to keep your relationship strong, do something that "forces" you to be together. So to all the other activities for couples, you can add one more: geocaching. It is new for me and only recently I have tried it out with my wife, and if you want to find out what it is, watch this video.

Courtney is a 52 year old woman and this is what she wrote to me today. "I agree with you on the subject of an older woman being with a younger man. Many people don't accept that this is a viable option. I myself resisted the temptation for some time before succumbing to the affections of a man 23 years my junior. I wound up marrying him and the problems that surfaced in our marriage were not due to our large age gap. His family members were more judgmental than mine about the age difference. After 6 years of being together, he divorced me and went back to his ex, who is only about 4 years younger than myself. I have been alone for nearly a year and have not found a man thus far that suits me. Age is a number. This is what I want men and women out there to understand," she says.

I think Courtney's case clearly proves that if a couple is compatible otherwise, age is merely a number. And if they are otherwise incompatible, being of the same age can actually be a problem sometimes - a mature partner can handle the situation better.

If you are a man, you are probably tired of your woman asking you for all those hugs. And if you are a woman, your number one complaint maybe that your man does not hug you enough, is reluctant to cuddle, and acts so cold.

Well, it turns out that there are so many benefits of physical contact between a couple. Forget about the benefits of a warm hug, just holding one's husband's hand can do wonders for a woman.

A study by Dr. James Coan, a University of Virginia neuroscientist, has found that married women under stress show signs of immediate relief when they hold their husband's hand, with this clearly seen on their brain scans.

So guys, stop complaining and hold that hand. While no research has been done on men yet, I am convinced you might be benefiting too.

Moms without wedlock increase in numbers

According to latest statistics, out-of-wedlock births in the United States have climbed to an all-time high, with 40% of the newborns, mostly among women in their twenties - so it is not due to teenage pregnancy.

Why is this happening?

Well, more couples are choosing to live together before marriage. Others, afraid of a divorce, are simply choosing not to have a legal marriage (these couples often live like married couples in other ways, for example, by managing their finances jointly). And of course, women who do not want to get married for the heck of it but would still like to be moms, become pregnant with the help of a donor so that they are still in control of their biological clock.

What does it mean?

Be ready to see more of such kids. Also do not make a fool of yourself by asking a mother about the child's father or her husband - they are gradually becoming archaic concepts.