How to find a cougar?

Nick writes, "I want to date a cougar, what do I have to do to get a mature woman?"

For those of you who are wondering if Nick likes dating animals, a cougar or a sugar mama is a word used to describe a lady who likes younger men. Think Demi Moore.

I always like to tell my readers that a hunter should go where the prey is. If you want to fish, you don't go to the mall, you go the sea or a lake.

So if you are interested in dating cougars, you have to explore places where mature women might hang out. So if you have a job in the mall, you do not want to work at Abercombie & Fitch but working at Talbots or Chico's or Macy's is worth it. You get the idea.

How to identify who could be a cougar?

A cougar typically takes good care of herself and dresses trendier. She will dress more like someone who is 10-15 years younger than her. I have seen that many of them are in much better physical shape than their peers, though, this is not universal (considering how fat people are these days in general). She also is more aware of what is popular among young people and rarely talks about issues that interest women of their age (so you really wouldn't have to learn about parenting or retirement savings).

In addition, once you find your prey, treat her like you would someone your age, so that the age difference does not come as an issue between the two of you. You will need to woo her the way you would woo a girl your age.

And finally, never dwell on the age issue even if she does. Tell her that it is the person you care for rather than the age. Then, immediately change the topic.