Lisa writes, "The sex used to be great with my boyfriend but I want him to love me slowly not bam bam bam, so fast sometimes that I don't enjoy it any more. I explained to him that I wanted him to do some things different and please me, make love to me slowly and passionately. I have done all I can to talk to him and it's not working. My feelings have taken a drastic change for the worse and I am wondering if I should just throw him out of my life."

Regarding sex, he has the same issues as millions of other men do. For them sex is not about foreplay or intimacy; it is a way to release themselves and then go to sleep. These men have simply not learned to appreciate that a woman is not just a receptacle but a person with feelings.

All a girl can do in these circumstances is to request and you have done that, but I have little hope from him considering that he has not taken the time to learn lovemaking.

I am noticing that you seem like a nice, sweet, responsible girl and while this man has a few great qualities, he is not the man for you long term. What you want is a man who will not only do what he does but also make passionate love to you treating you like a woman with feelings rather than just a toy.

He will need to learn how to make love to you and you will teach him how to do it. Give him a chance to get it right in 3 months, and if you see no change, throw him out of the house.

Mobile phones and relationships

A company called, Dial-a-Phone, has made some interesting finding in its research on use of cell phones and relationships. Here are some of their shocking results:

• One out of three men and almost half of women would consider answering their phone during sex
• One out of four women would rather give up making love than their mobile phone for a month
• 4 in 5 people have used their picture phones to take intimate pictures of their partners (not recommended unless you are married - the next thing you know you breakup and the pictures are all over the Internet)! A similar percentage of people also answer their mobile phones during a first date
• One of out of ten breakups is by text message. Britney Spears divorced Keven Federline by text message

While a mobile phone is a must-have these days despite the ongoing controversy about their correlation to cancer, there are situations when you shouldn't use them. I can't stop laughing when people are sitting in a restaurant with one of those bluetooth headsets on. Unless you have a very important job (if you are a doctor or a cop on your meal break, for example) or if you are parent (who must answer the phone from a child or babysitter), you look like an idiot otherwise, especially if all you get are phone calls from your friends asking you about your day.

Dial-a-Phone relationship expert Flic Everett says, "There's a time and a place for mobile phones! Turning them off occasionally or even switching them to silent will make your loved-one feel as though they have your attention. Never ever answer your phone during sex. People will leave a message or call back later if it's urgent."

Flic comments: "Ending a relationship with a cold-hearted text is rude - it's the modern day equivalent of being finished by post-it note. However, some people may prefer to receive the news this way rather than being humiliated in person - I think before you press 'send' you need to consider how long you've been in the relationship and do you owe it to them to give a proper explanation."

Flic also suggests that couples use their mobile phones not to pay attention to others, but to themselves. For instance, Flic suggests that you take a suggestive photo during the day and email it to your lover - a great way to start the foreplay a little early.