As anyone knows, eHarmony has more narrowly focused on marriage-focused dating. It is not meant for people looking for casual dating or intimate encounters as True.com or Lavalife are.

And while there is wide acceptance of gays and gay marriage is already legal in Massachusetts and Connecticut, this dating website has not allowed gays to join. I suspect that the main reason is its ties to Christian extremist groups that thrive on homophobia.

Now it looks like the company is abandoning its Christian roots (though it had to do so as part of a legal settlement in which the company was represented with a right wing lawyer Ted Olson) and has a gay dating website called Compatible Partners.

While the company insists that their sophisticated matching software has not been tested on gay and lesbian couples but it will still let them use it. I personally see no difference between heterosexual and homosexual couples and expect that they should be able to find a match.

How to find if your husband is gay?

I have written previously for the beneift of those women who wonder if their partner is gay, particularly if he wears feminine underwear or likes to take care of himself or is just a little feminine and enjoys wearing lingerie. In most cases, they are worrying about the wrong person. Such men are either metrosexuals or simply exploring their feminine side.

On the other hand, research shows, millions of men are actually gay, but pretending to be straight or are in denial about their orientation. High profile examples include evangelical leader Ted Haggard, former Congressman Mike Huffington, and former New Jersey Governor Jim McGreevey. Bonnie Kaye, the author of "Is He Gay? A Checklist of Women Who Wonder," has some tips to find out if you are stuck with someone who is a closeted individual:

• If your husband thinks you are a nymphomaniac or "pushy and aggressive" because you want sex twice a week.
• If physical intimacy steeply declines within the first few years of marriage.
• You're always more active in the bedroom than your husband.
• If your husband is turned off by the thought of touching your private area or performing oral sex on you.
• If his best friend is gay and he often hangs out with him and his friends.
• If he is excessively homophobic, mocking and imitating other gay men (that was what Ted Haggard did and build a little empire for himself by urging clueless Christians to join him in his homophobia).
• If he brags about gay men complimenting him on his looks.