Rakesh from Patna writes, "I have had a wonderful person in my life for several years. She is very nice person that I have ever met in my life. We started as friends but then I fell in love with her. The problem is that she already loves someone. Even though we are very close to each other, she is now afraid that his boyfriend may not like our rather cozy relationship. What can I do to end this relationship because it is making it harder for me to find a girlfriend since I still like her and cannot imagine falling in love with another girl when she is always on my mind?"

Sorry to hear that your love did not work out. It happens all the time -- the person you love is already in a relationship with someone else.

My suggestion to you would be to forget this woman and move on with your life. You sound like a kind, romantic man and I am confident that you will easily find other women who will appreciate a boyfriend like you. So get her out of your head, go spend time with your friends and family, and eventually another girl will recognize that you are a wonderful man and fall in love with you.

The easiest thing for you to do will be to tell her that since she is in a romantic relationship with another man it is not appropriate for you two to be together. That way, her memories will fade from your mind and you will start to feel attracted to other women.

How do I deal with a heartbreak?

Jill writes, "After my boyfriend dumped me because his parents did not like him dating me, I am so heartbroken and confused; a part of me still wants him and the other part of me is telling me that I should really get over him even though I love him and I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I know we broke up and got back together and broke up again as he didn't show me no love so I'm battling with my feelings here and it hurts most of the time even though eventually I will heal and be alright like I have never been before but currently I'm really dying. I miss that warmth of his touch and his sweet loving and the way that he made me feel so supernatural. I mean he made me feel so whole and it's hard to get over him even after what he did to me and telling me that he used me, which of course, is still painful on the inside. How do I stop feeling sorry for myself and start feeling normal again?"

Dealing with a heartbreak

You are definitely experiencing heartbreak and it is natural. I think it is OK to go through the grieving because it helps. If you feel like crying, please do it. It will help your pain.

Clearly this guy was an awesome lover but a bad man. I mean he should never be allowed to fall in love with a woman or marry one because in the end his life is dictated by his mother and not by him. He is not a man; he is a sissy and they make terrible husbands.

I don't know what you want at this point. A husband or a great lover? I know you are still very young and it is fine to "play" with the boys. In that case, go right ahead and if he is using you, you can use him too and have a good time, but if you want a real man that will stand by you and eventually marry you and build a life together, then it is best to just cherish those sweet memories and move on.

I see each breakup as an opportunity to learn and get better. You have definitely learned about men and relationships after being with him and in your next relationship you will be much wiser and careful.

Is it possible for you to take some time off to travel to some place?