Dora, a Hispanic girl obsessed with Asian guys, says, "I am a nurse so I know plenty of Asian guys (there are a lot of Asians in the medical field). I also have lots of Asian friends; FRIENDS sadly :-(. Most of them date Asians; Asian girls are tough competition; they are so pretty. At the moment I think I'm going to take like a little time to get myself to a healthier weight. Maybe that way I can catch a pair of Asian eyes. I also am very shy, so it's very hard for me to talk to guys."

Well that is so great since you don't have to go looking elsewhere. But there is no need to wait till you lose weight because if you wait there will always be something or the other that you will see as a barrier. So go right ahead and start the game.

And yes, many Asians do gravitate towards Asian girls but isn't that true for Latin (or for that matter any race or ethnic group) men too? However, there is always someone who might like you; so do not get discouraged if you are perceived as an outsider and get rejected a few times.

And I hope you can overcome your shyness.

A frustrated black man writes about his adventures dating African American women, "What is going on with our black sisters? They have no passion for love. They pray for a good man with good teeth, credit score, and a career and when they are blessed with a good man, they just don't know what the hell to do to keep the flame burning. Can someone tell me why they just don't practice catch and release if they don't know what to do when they get the fish in the boat? Is this a problem with other races? Maybe we need to identify some required reading material for those who just don't have a clue about how to be. The passion should last for decades, not months. It might be that my expectations are too high."

Sita writes, "Is it true that generally Japanese boys tend to dislike British-Asians [British born and parents from a South-Asian country]. I know every boy is different but in general. Would they even date Brit-Asians? Because my friend also told me that they're only interested in Caucasian people and would only date them."

In my numerous conversations with Japanese people they do have some reluctance to date South Asians and other dark skinned people but not all people are alike. I have actually known people (not British) from India/Pakistani/Bangladesh date and marry Japanese.

So if you are otherwise interesting give it a shot. I know a lot of them travel to Britain and some even study English there. Start to find out how you can sort of give some English lessons to them and get to know the group (they stay in groups actually) and the next thing you know you might even find a boy that likes you.

Stay in touch and let me know how things turn out and what help you need.

I am a white woman dating a black guy

What is wrong with this picture? Absolutely nothing. Actually, this photo of Heidi Klum and Seal is a great example of how interracial relationships can work and there is nothing wrong with checking out a man of a different race.

Not so for one of my readers, who I think has some racial prejudices of her own, and of course, she confirms that her parents are racists. "I met this guy as a family friend and I tried to hold off dating him as he is 20 and I am 25. He is also black but was brought up by a white family so he speaks well and he is practically white! But with these two issues being there I really do find myself heavily attracted to him. I have no problem being in public with him and showing affection but my problem comes in with the family as I am living with them and I am not sure if they would approve of our relationship! My parents stay in another city but one thing they said to me was I must never bring a black guy home. I am afraid that they will not accept this and it would put strain on the relationship! I'm considering telling them as he is really a great guy. It is just he is younger and of different colour. How do I tell them without their freaking out?" she asks.

You are an adult and you have to stand up for your choices now. I don't necessarily recommend picking fights with family members but it appears that your parents are racists.

You have an important decision to make now - How much do you love this man? If you are serious about this man, then you need to stand up for your choice and tell your parents that racism is not right and you do not approve of their thinking. Tell them politely that you love this man and his skin color has no role whatsoever in how you feel about him.

If you think that it is only a casual relationship and not worth spoiling family harmony, it is OK to breakup with him right away. You can simply tell him that you want to end the relationship - telling him that you are breaking up because of his skin color is not appropriate.

In the future, before you want to date a man, you must also think about your choice. Do you want to date someone you like or do you want to date someone that your parents like?

Finally, a 5-year age difference is not relevant. You guys are in the same age bracket; couples today are dating across generations and a couple has tied the knot with a 58-year age gap.