Connie writes, "My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, and seem like our love life is fading. I try my best to keep it exciting. I mean I go to the extremes with this man, by role playing, dressing up, and doing things that I thought I would never do. I know he loves me but will this cause us to go our separate ways? Please give me some advice on this."

You know it is very sad to hear that there are men like your boyfriend and wonderful women like you - I would do anything to be with someone like you and this idiot simply does not appreciate how lucky he is. There are several reasons why this may be happening:

1. He has fallen out of love and is in love with someone else. Do you have any idea what is going on? Or if he has another girlfriend? Do a little investigation and if you come up with some information that he is cheating, it is time to breakup and move on.
2. He is stressed out or worried due to other issues in his life. It could be work related or may be caused by financial problems or even a family issue. Talk to him and find out. If there is a problem, be supportive in this difficult time.
3. You are doing things that don't appeal to him. For example, I love role play but I know there are men who are more into meat-and-potatoes type relationship with their lover - they simply are not interested in anything new. You have to find out what is it that he wants and do that. Do you really know what turns him on? When you know that you will do things that he likes rather than what you like though in the end I am not sure if you want to be with a man forever who simply cares about his desires and not about yours.

How to get the love you want from a man?

Nicki has recently met a much younger man and their relationship has been going fairly well despite the fact she is sometimes concerned that he shows college-student mentality towards the relationship. He has, however, promised to do his best to make things work. "My main issue now is to get him to do certain things while intimate. I think he does not appear to have as much bedroom experience as I do and I am willing to teach him. Should I wait till we are a serious couple to demand things as far as physical intimacy is concerned or should I try to give hints for now? I think I did give a little hint the other day but there is something very specific that I like. I know some men are not into it or can't even think of doing it, so I am somewhat afraid to say it so openly. What do you think?" she asks.

First of all, never assume anything. In other words, you never know until you find out - and just because I have never done something it does not mean that I will never do it. Maybe I never got the chance and that is why I may not get a hint or may not suggest it myself or even show my reluctance doing it the very first time.

Secondly, the best way to do it is to suggest it as something fun to do rather than saying that you love it, you have always done it, and if he doesn't do it, he is an idiot. For example, if you could show him a film (What about Femme de Chambre du Titanic) or a photo (even better if you do that during a romantic getaway) and then casually mention - "Oh, that sounds like so much fun; I would love to try that with you" - and see what happens. Most men are pretty adventurous; trust me.

I think, therefore, you better give hints right now. Why? If he does not pay attention or is unable to make progress as you wish, well, it will give you something to think about - do you still want to be with him long term?