Melody writes, "I met a guy about a year and a half ago, and we started dating a few months later. We have a great time when we're together, but I have to force him to spend time with me. His usual routine is to get up in the morning and within the hour he's on his way out the door. As a woman I feel like I need more than that from someone who says he loves me. He's gone all day, and he comes home with just enough time to maybe eat, then he falls asleep. He refuses to give up his apartment, no one understands why. I've got a friend who stays across the street from his place, and she and her man say that they've never seen anyone else with him over there, so I don't really suspect cheating. I tried talking to him many times, but he acts like the problem will just go away. I finally lost it the other night. He left the house with an attitude because I was not in the bed with him. I was sleeping on the couch because I was uncomfortable. I texted him and told him he forgot his things that he could take them to wherever he spends all his time. He reluctantly left. I love him, but I can be by myself whenever I want. Why should I claim having a man if he's never around?"

It is clear that you two are totally incompatible. You are warm and emotional, warm person that likes to spend quality time with your lover, but based on his behavior with you, it is obvious that he is not that type at all. As you are finding out, it is not that he is cheating or that another woman is on his mind; many men are simply not so much into hugging, cuddling, kissing, or going shopping with their girl. In other words, he is a cold man who lives in his own world where there is not a lot of place for a woman to live.

Melody, he is not the man for you and if you are with him, you will always be waiting for his attention while he will simply believe that you are just another object in his life. It is good that he is gone so now you can move on and find someone more like you.

Is it OK to kiss your friends on the lips if you are married?

Michelle writes, "The father of my unborn child and soon-to-be-husband thinks its okay to kiss other close female friends on the lips in my presence and makes statements like "my wife, she won't get jealous." At times it hurts me and he accuses me of being paranoid and jealous of him and his close friends. Don't I have enough reason to be? After all actions are stronger than words. Please advise me."

I think if this man has been kissing these women like that for a while and was the norm in his group of friends, it may not be a big deal in the sense that he is just continuing with that behavior. And maybe you should think again if you want to make a big deal about it and create friction in your relationship.

Having said that, he must stop doing it if you protest. As his fiancee you have a right to demand that he show physical intimacy towards you and you alone..

What you have to find out is why is he doing this? Is it some kind of group behavior? Is he also sexually involved with them? Are these women single? If not, do their partners not object?

Personally, if it is limited to a quick peck on the lips and there is nothing hanky-panky going on behind your back, you can ask him to stop but don't put your relationship on the line for this. These friends will probably get married and move on. However, if you think that he does not take you seriously as a future wife and wants to continue with his single lifestyle, it might be time to give him a serious warning.