My long distance relationship keeps me lonely

Carmen writes, "I have been dating a guy for two years. We have a long distance relationship. Today I am a better person because of him. He is someone when you are around him you want to be better. He pushed me to attain the potential that I thought was out of reach for me. I am more confident and more comfortable in my skin. Once a month he will come to see me or he will send for me. Six months ago he broke up with me. Now he is back in my life. He never talks about moving closer to me or me moving closer to him. He seems to be very content with his life. His job requires a lot of traveling. He is gone from six months to a year at time. I need my men closer to me. I can't do the long distance relationship anymore. How do I approach this issue? I wonder why he never talks about moving. Is it because he doesn't want to commit to me or is it the fact that he knows that he is never home due to his job. As much that I love him, I am tired of not having him near me. It is very lonely at times. Help me."

From his behavior it is very clear that he is not interested in a real relationship with you. For all we know, he could have another girl (or girls or even a wife) some place else because of his lifestyle in which you don't see him for months. If he were interested in a relationship that most of us have then he would have already suggested that either you move closer to him or that you travel with him. And since you have never really pushed for it, he has assumed that the arrangement is working fine for you too. There is a strong possibility that he is also not interested in a relationship that requires any kind of commitment from him because that would require him to worry about you and give you his time.

The best thing to do is to discuss this issue with him next time you see him. If he is not interested in being closer to you more often (yes, even people that travel a lot have wives or figure out a way to spend more time with them) you would know for sure that you better look for someone who is in your area.