I dumped my loser boyfriend

Daisy writes, "I'm from a conservative Christian background, so I made my boyfriend wait to make love for the first time, though not that long in my books (I made other men wait longer, like 3 months, some a year before intimacy). We had only been together just one month and it seemed we knew each other for 5 years! The connection and understanding, but also the fighting. When in bed, he made it all about me, he just wanted to please me, hardly himself. Constantly praising me and holding me while also finding it scary because he normally doesn't go beyond sex with others. He is damaged also because he asked a girl he loved to marry him 3 years ago, then broke it off with her thinking "I'm not capable of love, I need to party more," then came back and asked her again to which she refused! He now says that after the 3 years of meaningless sex frenzy with women since her, he has found peace and hope with me. He told me I have taken him to another level, I give him hope, he wants us to be as serious as possible, wants to meet my mom and me his mom, he seems me in his future etc...all this in the first week! But for the amount of "I love you" that he says, he hardly makes an effort (like he'll take me to a crappy place, so randomly for dinner dates, rather than make reservations like men that are serious about women do). He once asked me for $10, so he could buy me lunch! My God! I'm so turned off...so I might let him go because I want a man that can take care of me and me support and love him, not someone I have to babysit. He hasn't called and I am glad that he broke up with me."

Dump a bad boyfriend sooner rather than later

I think it was the right decision to let him go because the relationship is still very new at this stage. Regardless of how good he performed in the bed, he appears to be cheap, unsophisticated, and carries way too much baggage from his past relationships. Also, I cannot imagine how anyone can suggest this deep love, think about marriage and family so early on. It just shows immaturity.

You sound like a smart woman and I am sure someone more like you will come your way. So stay positive.