Robert, a man in his mid-50s interested in dating a younger girl. He asks, "What are some good dating websites for young women looking for older men?"

I don't like to personally recommend any website because I have not had the chance to try it myself (I am a happily married to a woman slightly older to me; thank you very much) but what I tell people is that they can use any good dating website and indicate what they are looking for in their personal ad. You can also do a Google search (for terms like Sugar Daddy or Sugar Mama or cougar dating or mature dating) and find some so-called specialty websites but I am skeptical of them because they do not have enough members or often have girls who just want your money. Many of them are actually escorts or prostitutes or want to become a mistress rather that real girls looking for a solid relationship.

Of course, I also like you to join to the completely free dating website that I am building.

While many older women now date younger men and it does not raise many eyebrows these days, men have traditionally married women their age or younger than them. Some of it had to do with the fact that men are fertile much longer while women find it hard to be pregnant as they get older and it is nearly impossible for them to have a healthy child in their 40s. Here is more information on the reasons why men choose younger women.

I wanted to share a story from one of our readers. She is just 20 years old and is dating a 43-year old man.

"We met through friends when I was 17. Everything was great for the first six months; in fact he chased me for three months and one day I felt completly head-over-heels in love! Then he started to change. He split up with me and slept with any woman he could find as well as me. He is my first ever love and boyfriend and however nasty he was to me, I held on! He would always tell me to move on and when I began to do so, he would beg me to come back! I will never give up on him because I know how hurt he was in his mariage and there is a beautiful man inside when he shows it! It has been nearly three years now and still it is the same situation - he loves me for a few weeks and then he doesn't even want to know where am I! I am unsure if this is because of his past and his scars, but I will always love hin and I am not quite ready to give up yet although I am starting to struggle to show him what he has and what he will lose. I don't want to give all my love to him and end up being so hurt that I will not love again! There's just something so special about him that I can't give up! I just want to be loved back and made to feel the way I try to make him feel every day! We are the best of friends and so similar! I love the fact that he is wise and can teach me things! There is no issue over the age gap. I believe that it adds to our relationship, but maybe if I were able to have met him 20 years ago, he might not have had so many issues and he would be more willing to give this relationship a real chance! I don't want children and he has already done that. I also don't want marriage - all I want is me and him and commitment! I believe we are more perfect because of our age difference because we are on the same path but at different stages of our lives! I know he wants to be loved and after all we have been through a lot. If we are still together, there must be some fate in that! I am just going to hold on and believe that one day he will realize what he has and I will be cherished at last!"

What do you think?

Is she delusional? Is this man abusing a young woman? Should she end the relationship and move on? Or will the man see her unconditional love and give her what she deserves? Has something like this happened to you before? What did you do? How did things turn out for you? Please let me know. If you have a blog, you can blog about it or you can simply share your thoughts here (no email address is needed).

Couple with 41 years age gap

While the current hot topic is younger men dating older women, the trend of older men in relationships with much younger women is not over. However, we have been surprised by one of our reader's story. She writes, "I am 31, and my significant other just turned 72. We have a great relationship. Most of the people in our lives, his 3 daughters, (his youngest is 9 years older than me), and my 3 children (12, 7, and 4) are all fine with our relationship. Of course, in the begining, there were questions from everyone. But now, there are only a couple people in our lives - my dad and step-mom, and his 24 year old grandson that has a problem. I was married before, he is widowed. We care about each other and we support each other, take care of ourselves and each other, and we both learn a lot from each other. I never imagined I would ever meet someone this special. By the way, he is not particularly wealthy, so I can't be accused of being a gold-digger. The hardest part is being in public. People think he is my grandfather, and when they find out our relationship are pretty obviously taken back. It is hard to meet others that can relate, and it is hard to know how to respond to confrontation. Any advice?"

Well, in over five years that we have operated LuvCube talking about such relationships, you are probably the couple with the biggest age gap. In any case, the most high profile case is that of Anna Nicole Smith and her husband J. Howard Marshall II since they had an age gap of 63 years. While she always claimed that he was the love of her life, no one believed her and called her a gold-digger.

While people are more accepting, as you have found out, your case is an exception. In other words, what it means is that you will have to live with this the rest of your life and learn to deal with it. Let me give you an example. My wife does not use my last name. So it is not uncommon for people to address us by each other's last names depending who they know. So the phone company (phone is in her name) always addresses me using her last name. What can we do? There is nothing offensive about it but it is awkward at times for me to be called at times with a last name that I love but is not mine.

How to deal with the situation?

This is what I would suggest. In situations where it is only temporary (e.g. when you check into a hotel and the clerk does not realize that he is your boyfriend), there is no reason to correct or to engage in a conversation trying to clarify it. You will only be making your life difficult. On the other hand, for people that must understand - family members, friends, etc. - you must politely and without embarassment - correct them. There is no reason to give long explanations. We all have a right to fall in love with anyone we choose to and others should respect that.

The sad reality of the world is that people just expect things to be a certain way. Men will only marry women. Children will only be born to heterosexual couples. People will only marry others like them. Remember not too long ago it was a scandal to marry someone of another race.

I would say that just because of the public reaction you should not stop living your life. Live your life as if his age is not an issue. Eventually people will see the beauty of it all and get used to it. Some idiots, though, never will. Don't worry about the idiots.