Samuel writes, "Not so long ago I had a fantastic love affair with a girl twenty years my younger. But pressure from her peers spoiled everything and in the end destroyed our relationship. I would like once again to enter into a relationship with a younger woman in her thirties; I am fifty five! Is that way off the mark?"

Based on emails that I have been receiving, there are some girls that would be interested in you, considering that you appear to be financial stable. I don't think your age is way off the mark; I have been hearing from people who are dating men and women half their age. And you know it because you have traveled this road before. Obviously, you will find it harder than dating a woman your age, but I know that a woman at any age is definitely attracted to wealth, intellect, and power, and if you can giver her a hint of any or all of the above, she sure would like to enjoy it.

Samantha writes, "I am attracted to a man much older then me. He's very reserved and slightly reclusive. However, I would love to pursue him, but my twenty-something seduction tactics aren't working. What should I do?

Your problem is twofold. One is his being reserved and reclusive and that will make it harder for a woman even his age to break his shell.

Two, most older men assume that very young girls will never be interested in them. For instance, being in my 40s, I typically don't expect girls in their 20s to even pay attention to me, but I sure can figure out when a woman (regardless of her age) is really interested in me. At that point, I can ignore her if I do not think that I should be exploring a relationship with such a young woman. Or, if I think it is a nice thing to do, I will reciprocate.

In my opinion, it would be much safer for you to approach him non-romantically (e.g. could you work for him a few hours a week helping organize his papers?) and over time as you two spend some time together he might realize that you are not just an assistant. At that point, a romantic move will help. Yes, it is somewhat easy to seduce your boss.

Carlos writes, "Are there to your knowledge any reputable dating sites that would suit an older, serious, financially stable gentleman looking for a serious relationship with a younger woman? I have been looking around and most of them are quite frankly nothing more than places to hookup with whores in return for money! I am looking for a real relationship, possibly leading to marriage, because I simply find that I connect better with women somewhat younger than me."

I agree with you that these dating websites that seem to match older men with younger women are simply for prostitutes seeking desperate men.

Actually, I prefer that you try a conventional dating website that you like and just state in your preference that you are looking for a woman in her 30s. Do not be apologetic or offer explanations. If this is what you like and want, just say so.

I also like the old-fashioned techniques of meeting people. Yes, at parties and other events. Just pick your events where women in 30s are likely to be available. Join volunteer organizations or interest groups that attract younger women and you will be amazed how lucky you will get.

Lorenzo, a 52 year old man, who not too long ago had a relationship with a woman in her 30s, but they broke up. Now he wants to start dating again, preferably with a younger woman. He shares his thoughts:

"I guess at my age one is just a bit shy to start chatting with younger women. I had a very serious relationship with a younger woman but it was purely by accident; I didn't go searching for a younger woman, it just happened. But I have to say that I love the vitality that the younger woman brings with her. I am referring to ambitions and a positive spin on life. I myself have become rather cynical in the work that I do. So the younger woman is very refreshing. I shall take your advice and just take it easy and see what comes along instead of acting like a headless chicken."

Nicole writes, "I am 47 and attracted to a 78 yer old man; we both know there is chemistry between us -- the long lingering looks between each other. He has taken me for a coffee twice and when he has said that I must know he likes me. The way he kisses me and holds my hand I know in my heart that he needs me like I need him. I am waiting patiently for him to carry it through. Please could you tell me that this relationship with the age difference could ever work? If it ever came round to sex please could you give me some ideas on what to expect."

I am a strong believer, and I have heard from thousands of couples like you in relationships with huge age difference, that a couple can have a great relationship regardless of the age gap.

Having said that, I hope you also understand that it is one thing for a 20 year old woman to date a 50 year old man but an altogether different matter when the ages are like yours. Based on typical life expectancy in the developed world, he is already past it. In other words, his health may fail and you will be taking a lot of care of him. On the other hand, you are still very young. And yes, Viagra can perform magic on very old men, but do not be surprised if he cannot perform in bed, or at least is unable to satisfy a woman this young.

What I am trying to tell you is that you both can have an excellent relationship and you should go for it as long as you understand that sex, if possible, will not be great, and the relationship may not last for a very long time.

Jennifer writes to me, "I am a 27 year old female who is married to a 62 year old man. We have one child who is five years old. The marriage has its ups and downs just like any other relationship. We are not perfect, however, we are happier than most couples that we know. We have been married for about six years, and I hope and pray that I have twenty more years with my husband. We get along great and our child is very energetic and outgoing. She is very talkative and there are many times when people will tell my husband what a cute granddaughter he has. He smiles and politely corrects them, letting them know that he is her daddy not her grandpa. I also feel that older men are much better lovers. They are not selfish and are very patient."

If you are contemplating such a relationship with a huge age gap, go right ahead and enjoy it.

If you are in a relationship with a wide age difference, I would like to hear from you. Or you can simply comment on this page.

Anne writes, "He is 55, I am 22. I can't tell if I love him the person, or I love him because he is a multimillionaire. I don't think it's because of his money,but I am so clear if he has no money, I won't him. I guess,it's kinda because I think he is smart, and smart guy should be rich. Is that enough to make me fall in love with a man older than me by 30 years? I feel lost. Maybe I am just that kind of girl that loves old guys. It's weird."

You are not alone in thinking that. Women are almost always attracted to power and money, which in most cases, as you said, comes from intellect, knowledge, and being smart. Such men are also kind and respect women, but what you have to ask yourself is what is the future of this relationship. Do you simply want to have a good time with him for as long as possible or do you think that you want to marry him some day and live happily ever after? You may have to do some more research to find out what he is looking for. Are you simply a toy for this man or is he in love with you and wants to marry you?

There is another possibility that you have talked about: women who like fatherly figures. Yes, a group of women love and even marry men that remind them of their dads.

In each case, there is nothing wrong with having this relationship; you just have to ask what is it that you want and if you can get it with this man.

While I enjoy receiving emails from everyone (you don't need a reason to write to me; it is always nice to hear from you even if you just want to say hello), but it is awesome when I get emails from people in happy relationships.

Carla, a 40-year old woman writes, "I am dating a 56 year old man whom I love with all my heart. When I met him at a work party, I never anticipated we would date, but I am very glad we did. Since we are both older, I think our respective ages are less problematic than they could be if either of us had less life experience under our belts. The chivalry and respect and the desire for open and honest communication you get from an older man make the relationship so rewarding and enriching. The one hurdle we face is his perception that he is a 'dirty old man' because he is dating someone 16 years his junior, and my frustration that he sometimes thinks this way! On the whole we make a good team and complement each others strengths and weaknesses and all I can say is that age, for us, is just a number. I have waited half a lifetime to meet him and now I have found the perfect man for me. I want to spend the remainder of my lifetime with him."

Robert, a man in his mid-50s interested in dating a younger girl. He asks, "What are some good dating websites for young women looking for older men?"

I don't like to personally recommend any website because I have not had the chance to try it myself (I am a happily married to a woman slightly older to me; thank you very much) but what I tell people is that they can use any good dating website and indicate what they are looking for in their personal ad. You can also do a Google search (for terms like Sugar Daddy or Sugar Mama or cougar dating or mature dating) and find some so-called specialty websites but I am skeptical of them because they do not have enough members or often have girls who just want your money. Many of them are actually escorts or prostitutes or want to become a mistress rather that real girls looking for a solid relationship.

Of course, I also like you to join to the completely free dating website that I am building.

I hear about relationships with big age gaps almost every day but there are times that some age gaps are bigger than what we are used to. Jim is 45 and is ready to marry an 18-year old. "It happened by our luck only. I was not looking for a relationship like this but we both love each other now. Am I wrong? Please tell me," he asks.

Indeed, there is no numbers counting when you fall in love. Since the two of you are both in love, get rid of any doubts you have. This is not the time to think since age is just a number. Indeed, you may have some problems in the marriage because of the age gap but I hear from couples every day who have problems - they also happen to be in the same age bracket. In fact, perfectly normal couples in every respect keep getting divorced or breaking up. This is simply a myth that people with wide age gap have any more problems than couples in the same age group. Of course you will need to make adjustments (the music that you like may not be the same as she does, for example) and so will she, but that is advice couples of all ages need. A relationship is about acceptance and compromises and as long as you do that you can have a beautiful relationship.

Young woman deeply in love with man twice her age

We at LuvCube publish selected stories about love and relationships. Here is a beautiful and inspirational story of Ingrid.

"I was always attracted to older men. It's not just physical attraction; I was always more mature than my age and couldn't see myself with younger guys.

I often wonder what exactly is considered a large age gap? 5 years? 10 years? 35 years? I'm not sure if anyone can explain where the designation would start. People who are on the same spiritual and intellectual levels don't have to be the same age to have a meaningful relationship. I don't think age is as important as maturity and compatibility. Love is love. When you are in love, what can you do? Love has no age. Age is an issue only when you want it to be an issue.

I am now in a relationship with a man 25 years older (I am 25) and I couldn't be happier. It’s an interesting experience in some ways because of the challenges it brings. I also believe that opposites do attract, sometimes. We have a wonderful relationship and a passion for each other. We both love each other. We rarely fight, and just because we try to resolve our problems, we both know how to find a compromise. I can share ups and downs of life with him, we both have a good sense of humor, we mutually respect each other, we have a lot of good/bad times, but we learn from and grow stronger every time. We have differences in many things but it also gives us the chance to share each others interests along with the interests we have together. Everybody has experiences - some good, some bad.

Relationships with age gaps are not for everyone, but if you think you can manage it, then why not? I think our life together is fantastic, despite our little problems and I can tell that I 'm a woman who intends to spend all my life with him. But sometimes he feels insecure (How to deal with insecure men?) that in the future, I will be unhappy and regret the decision to be with him and he doesn't want to have to go through that. We're both truly in love right now and I can't think about anybody or anything else rather than making a life with him.

Everybody irrespective of their age is able to fall in love and be loved. There is no reason why this feeling should not make them happy. The relationship can survive when you look over the age difference and see each other as two loving people with pounding hearts and romantic feelings. We've been together for almost 2 years and I am still madly in love with him."