My best friend and his wife want a threesome with me
Gary writes, "I am a 24 year old man and I have a close friend of 15 years. He has been married for almost 5 years. I am very close with him and his wife, since they have been dating since high school. Both of them had told me that they have an 'open relationship' and don't mind sleeping with others outside the marriage. To my knowledge, this has never occurred, but they're up for it. The other day during a wild night of drinking, we were talking about how I haven't gotten laid in almost a year. The next morning, I got a text message from his wife propositioning me, and telling me that she would be willing to help with my 'not been laid in a while' problem. It's tempting, because she is attractive, and she assures me that my friend wants her to do it, but I don't know what to do. I don't want to mess up our friendship that has gone on so long, but they seem really cool about it. Since it has been so long it's hard to resist. What should I do?"Regarding your situation, looks like there is no need to seduce your best friend's wife. It is fairly obvious that they are both cool with the idea. And trust me, they are not alone. Millions of couples have open relationships and or some form of freedom in which they have sex outside their marriage. Now, some of these people are on the web and are openly propositioning other people, often perfect strangers (which has its own pluses because it can ensure some privacy and anonymity) but many others that I have spoken to prefer it with a trusted person who will not have any diseases and is not likely to go tell the world about it.
Therefore, my suggestion to you will be that given the circumstances, you can go ahead and join them. Before doing so, however, it is a good idea to finally review what it means to your friendship with them. It is also a good idea to discuss the boundaries and limits beforehand. For instance, will it be the three of you or more or will he watch or will you be alone with the wife while he is gone somewhere or will someone take pictures or make a video and any other questions that you might have?
Labels: friendship, open marriage, polyamorous


