I like to believe that we should be romantic to our partners every day. And definitely there is no excuse for being mean the rest of the year and then making up for it on Valentine's Day or wedding anniversary.

In any case, having a great Valentine's Day is one of telling your partner how much you care. And despite all the advertising that women will be happy only if they receive a diamond or lingerie or chocolate, the reality is that any woman is smart enough to figure out the thought.

Watch this great video from Colin Cowie on how to organize a great Valentine's Day meal.

To keep a relationship passionate, a couple must spend quality time together, and as they say about reaching a man's heart through his stomach, food is important. But as everyone will agree with me, by the time you end up cooking a gourmet meal at home, half the passion is gone. Of course you can eat at a restaurant but what if that restaurant was designed exclusively for couples and every dish had an aphrodisiac in it?

That is exactly what the Aphrodisiac restaurant does (or you can buy oysters fed with Viagra). The couple sits on a table that reminds them of a luxurious bed and then the fun begins. Strongly recommended when you are in Los Angeles (10351 Santa Monica Blvd; phone number 310-282-8870). Here is a video.

If you are single (well, it looks like a lot of people even in relationships seek other partners), chances are that you will or have already looked online for relationships. By the way, if you want to try online dating for free, you are welcome to join our free dating website.

Unfortunately, finding a partner online is much more competitive than finding someone at a local bar - there's just too much competition. It is like finding a job online; if you don't stand out, no one will even look. All the way from writing your personal ad to having professionally taken pictures to the way you communicate can make a huge difference to your chance of succeeding in finding that perfect woman or man. Here are some tips from the gurus of internet dating.

Men not only appear to have commitment phobia, they some times even do not want to admit that they are dating someone. Laura recently ended up with a guy like that. While Karl was sweet to her and treated her well when the two of them were together, but would never offer to hang out with friends and family members. Then one day she found out something even worse. Read it in her own words.

"Karl is a an actor and the other day I decided to surprise him by going to his show. During the intermission, I sent word backstage that I was in the audience. After the show was over, I went to meet him. He introduced me to a few of his cast members but one girl asked if I was his girlfriend, and I just heard him say, "I told you already I don't have a girlfriend." I said goodbye and left. I decided that I'm taken for granted by this man. We have done everything that couples do and he still thinks that we are not in a relationship. I don't knw if I should cut him off completely or just have him as a friend. What do you think?"

My Advice

You know "I told you already I don't have a girlfriend" is the operative expression. In other words, either he is just using you or does not think of you as girlfriend material, of even worse, he has another girlfriend.

I know it takes a while before you start to publicly introduce your girlfriend and in that situation, he should have said, "Yes, that is the beautiful lady I am dating right now and I am so happy." That way you are still not saying that you are in a serious relationship but you are not treating the woman like a piece of garbage either.

My recommendation would be that you let him go - if you continue to be with him, he will simply assume that you are desperate and continue to humiliate you like this. If he is dating you, he should have had no problems saying that you two are dating right now - even if he did not want to introduce you as his girlfriend.

I know it is going to be hard but maybe it is time to move on.

While the current hot topic is younger men dating older women, the trend of older men in relationships with much younger women is not over. However, we have been surprised by one of our reader's story. She writes, "I am 31, and my significant other just turned 72. We have a great relationship. Most of the people in our lives, his 3 daughters, (his youngest is 9 years older than me), and my 3 children (12, 7, and 4) are all fine with our relationship. Of course, in the begining, there were questions from everyone. But now, there are only a couple people in our lives - my dad and step-mom, and his 24 year old grandson that has a problem. I was married before, he is widowed. We care about each other and we support each other, take care of ourselves and each other, and we both learn a lot from each other. I never imagined I would ever meet someone this special. By the way, he is not particularly wealthy, so I can't be accused of being a gold-digger. The hardest part is being in public. People think he is my grandfather, and when they find out our relationship are pretty obviously taken back. It is hard to meet others that can relate, and it is hard to know how to respond to confrontation. Any advice?"

Well, in over five years that we have operated LuvCube talking about such relationships, you are probably the couple with the biggest age gap. In any case, the most high profile case is that of Anna Nicole Smith and her husband J. Howard Marshall II since they had an age gap of 63 years. While she always claimed that he was the love of her life, no one believed her and called her a gold-digger.

While people are more accepting, as you have found out, your case is an exception. In other words, what it means is that you will have to live with this the rest of your life and learn to deal with it. Let me give you an example. My wife does not use my last name. So it is not uncommon for people to address us by each other's last names depending who they know. So the phone company (phone is in her name) always addresses me using her last name. What can we do? There is nothing offensive about it but it is awkward at times for me to be called at times with a last name that I love but is not mine.

How to deal with the situation?

This is what I would suggest. In situations where it is only temporary (e.g. when you check into a hotel and the clerk does not realize that he is your boyfriend), there is no reason to correct or to engage in a conversation trying to clarify it. You will only be making your life difficult. On the other hand, for people that must understand - family members, friends, etc. - you must politely and without embarassment - correct them. There is no reason to give long explanations. We all have a right to fall in love with anyone we choose to and others should respect that.

The sad reality of the world is that people just expect things to be a certain way. Men will only marry women. Children will only be born to heterosexual couples. People will only marry others like them. Remember not too long ago it was a scandal to marry someone of another race.

I would say that just because of the public reaction you should not stop living your life. Live your life as if his age is not an issue. Eventually people will see the beauty of it all and get used to it. Some idiots, though, never will. Don't worry about the idiots.

Angie, a 33-year old mother of four, is dating a 21-year old man for about two years. "I have always been attracted to younger men. My current boyfriend is very compassionate, thoughtful, financially supportative, and he always goes the extra mile to prove that he is really into me. I guess I am in such denial. My girlfriend always puta it as I am too desperate. Is this really being desperate, if the man comes on to me. I have always asked him, Why doesn't he find someone his own age. His answer is always the same, "They are all full of games." I guess to sum it all up, I am very much scared that eventually, he may leave for someone his own age. Do you think, a woman of my age can really live life fully with a 21 year old man?" she asks.

Your girlfriend is so wrong. Sometimes things just happen and age ceases to be an issue. That is what happened to Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher and at least for now, they seem to have the perfect relationship.

I think what this young man sees in a mature woman like you is stability, maturity, and as someone with no time for BS. As you can imagine, many 21-year old women are more interested in casual relationships and that always creates a lot of drama - many men find that exhausting.

Based on dozens of emails I get each week from women like you, I see no reason why you guys couldn't have a great relationship, even marriage. Of course, he will not have the maturity of a 33-year old but that is where you come in. In that sense, you will complement each other, if you value his youth and he appreciates your wisdom.

I also don't buy the argument that when you are "old" he will leave you. Is there a guarantee that a man of your age won't leave you when you are "old?" No one has seen the future and we can't live our lives today based on what could go wrong in the future.

So in my opinion, enjoy the beautiful relationship and just don't pay attention to the age. Maybe it is a cliche, but the reality is that age is just a number.

29 year old woman dating 22 year old man

Haylie is a 29-year old dating a 22-year old salsa dancer. "He's what I call hot caramel, great body, great eyes, and personality. Never is mean nor rude to me, and always very dynamic. He has introduced me to his friends and has told my age (which I don't usually tell). He was in a 4-year relationship when I met him, broke up, and when I cut him off, he got together with his ex, but broke up after I contacted him again. I am not sure what it is he wants from me; he has said he is going with the flow. I am womanly looking and do not dress like a teenager. I do know he feels a woman should look like a woman and be not too muscular. I do feel younger and inspired to go after my dreams as I am still in university at night while working full-time. Should I bother seeing him or stop? I don't really trust him. We've been seeing each other for two months. We are not having sex but might soon after some conversations recently. What to do? Please help."

First of all, you should get this idea out of your head that you are in any way "old" or that he is in any way "too young." Indeed you guys are 7 years apart but 29 is still such a young age. From a man's point of view, a 29-year old woman is "young." Trust me, I hear from 29 year old men dating 43-year old women and they think that those women are "young." In think our concept of age is rapidly evolving.

So I would suggest that if you like him too, then go with the flow. Treat him like you will treat any other man regardless of his age. And if he still treats you right and you want to be with him, then, consider a relationship.