I am bored with my husband

Emily writes, "My husband and I are otherwise doing good in our marriage, he always cares a lot about me. I think it is me who has the problem that I am not so happy in our marriage. I think I am just lost in the big world. I married my first lover, and I didn't know the feeling of falling in love with others. I found too many good men after marriage. If I have to figure out what's wrong with my husband, I will have to say that having no sense of humor and romance are the only problems with him. I'm just a little bored in this marriage even though it has been just one year. Sometimes it influences our sex life because I do not feel the passion for him in bed and cannot orgasm. I have been told to find a secret lover, but that is not very realistic and I am afraid that people will find out. Most importantly, I wanna find someone who really loves me deeply and I love him. We need to be close friends in spirit; sex is not the only thing I want. I often feel that I am like a small boat in the big sea, so lonely."

Marriages are never perfect

I am glad that you are married to a good man. It is not easy to find a good man like him. Having said that, I also understand how you feel and why you feel that way. It is nearly impossible to marry a person and be satisfied with everything and find everything in one person. In other words, it is a good idea to have a network of close friends that you can interact with so that you can enrich your life.

How to make marriage romantic?

Yes, I can totally appreciate the lack of romance and sense of humor in him; many men are like that and it is not fun to spend time with them, but now that he is your husband, you have no choice. Regarding sense of humor, it is something that some people have or don't from birth and it cannot be acquired by trying, but a man can become romantic if a woman is romantic. What I have found is that if you do romantic things for him, he will appreciate that and then respond. So try it out.

Regarding having another lover, I agree with you that it is impossible to keep it a secret for too long; eventually someone will find out and that can mean a lot of trouble for everyone. So I would advise you to be careful and discreet if you do end up liking a man and want to have an affair.