While millions of couples live in sexless marriages, most of us manage to live lives full of fulfilling physical intimacy. Yes, men often complain of libido differences and women complain about men not being good lovers, but in the end, it still works out for most couples.

A latest study points out that contrary to what we might like to believe, seniors have a lot of action in bed. What is most remarkable about this study is that healthy couples have better sex life than those with health problems.

So what can you do to be active in the bedroom?

1. Stay fit.
2. Make time for it.
3. Eliminate stress.
   
4. Throw out wrong ideas. There is no age at which you should stop.
5. Introduce variety. Try new positions. Take a vacation.
6. Use tools: lingerie, videos, massages, role play, whatever works for you.
   

Nicki has recently met a much younger man and their relationship has been going fairly well despite the fact she is sometimes concerned that he shows college-student mentality towards the relationship. He has, however, promised to do his best to make things work. "My main issue now is to get him to do certain things while intimate. I think he does not appear to have as much bedroom experience as I do and I am willing to teach him. Should I wait till we are a serious couple to demand things as far as physical intimacy is concerned or should I try to give hints for now? I think I did give a little hint the other day but there is something very specific that I like. I know some men are not into it or can't even think of doing it, so I am somewhat afraid to say it so openly. What do you think?" she asks.

First of all, never assume anything. In other words, you never know until you find out - and just because I have never done something it does not mean that I will never do it. Maybe I never got the chance and that is why I may not get a hint or may not suggest it myself or even show my reluctance doing it the very first time.

Secondly, the best way to do it is to suggest it as something fun to do rather than saying that you love it, you have always done it, and if he doesn't do it, he is an idiot. For example, if you could show him a film (What about Femme de Chambre du Titanic) or a photo (even better if you do that during a romantic getaway) and then casually mention - "Oh, that sounds like so much fun; I would love to try that with you" - and see what happens. Most men are pretty adventurous; trust me.

I think, therefore, you better give hints right now. Why? If he does not pay attention or is unable to make progress as you wish, well, it will give you something to think about - do you still want to be with him long term?

I have written previously that smelling your partner's sweat works. No wonder millions of men smell the armpits of their women and underarm odor may be a great aphrodisiac. That is also the idea behind pheromones and other substitutes that raise your libido or make you more attractive to others.

We now have research from University of California at Berkeley that proves that women may also want to smell their man's sweat. According to this study led by Claire Wyart, when women sniffed a chemical found in a man's sweat, they found their mood improved and they experienced "total physiological and sexual arousal." The longer they smelled, the effect went up, but just 15 minutes was enough to trigger it.

So when he comes home after a workout, ladies, don't push him to the bathroom; get close to him instead. You will have a much better night in the bedroom.

Mobile phones and relationships

A company called, Dial-a-Phone, has made some interesting finding in its research on use of cell phones and relationships. Here are some of their shocking results:

• One out of three men and almost half of women would consider answering their phone during sex
• One out of four women would rather give up making love than their mobile phone for a month
• 4 in 5 people have used their picture phones to take intimate pictures of their partners (not recommended unless you are married - the next thing you know you breakup and the pictures are all over the Internet)! A similar percentage of people also answer their mobile phones during a first date
• One of out of ten breakups is by text message. Britney Spears divorced Keven Federline by text message

While a mobile phone is a must-have these days despite the ongoing controversy about their correlation to cancer, there are situations when you shouldn't use them. I can't stop laughing when people are sitting in a restaurant with one of those bluetooth headsets on. Unless you have a very important job (if you are a doctor or a cop on your meal break, for example) or if you are parent (who must answer the phone from a child or babysitter), you look like an idiot otherwise, especially if all you get are phone calls from your friends asking you about your day.

Dial-a-Phone relationship expert Flic Everett says, "There's a time and a place for mobile phones! Turning them off occasionally or even switching them to silent will make your loved-one feel as though they have your attention. Never ever answer your phone during sex. People will leave a message or call back later if it's urgent."

Flic comments: "Ending a relationship with a cold-hearted text is rude - it's the modern day equivalent of being finished by post-it note. However, some people may prefer to receive the news this way rather than being humiliated in person - I think before you press 'send' you need to consider how long you've been in the relationship and do you owe it to them to give a proper explanation."

Flic also suggests that couples use their mobile phones not to pay attention to others, but to themselves. For instance, Flic suggests that you take a suggestive photo during the day and email it to your lover - a great way to start the foreplay a little early.