Carol writes, "My boyfriend and I have been together 4 months. Everything was fine in the beginning. Then around a month ago, he started acting funny, ignoring me, starting arguments for no reason. Then I found out he cheated on me. I forgave him quickly but now I'm having a hard time trusting him. We are both getting sick of each other but we are in love and neither of us wants to let go of the relationship. We want to work it out, but we have no idea where to start and I don't want us to continue feeling this way. What steps should I take to fix this? What can we do to fix our love life? I need help ASAP before we lose each other."

Troubles in a relationship happen for a reason

Are you sure that you are in such deep love considering that you have been together for just 4 months? I am not suggesting that your love is not serious but it seems difficult to believe. Plus, in that short period of time he has already cheated once. The reason I am pointing out these issues is that maybe you need to think hard if this is the man for you. It is a very short relationship, you do not trust him already, and you are already sick of each other. This is not a good start.

How to patch things in a relationship?

If you still decide that this is the man for you, the best place to start is go to a quite place for a weekend (a place where there are no distractions of sightseeing). I want you to talk. Be prepared for talking. In a notebook, write down everything that you want to tell him and all the questions that you have. Remember that you both should not interrupt when other person is talking, never raise your voice, and answer all questions honestly. If you two follow simple ground rules like that, you can have an honest communication to find out if you two should try to work this out and then set up some rules for the future.

My fiance is paranoid and extremely jealous

Stacy writes, "My fiance has put a tracking device in my car and a recording device in my home. He constantly accuses me of sneaking around when I don't tell him of my every move. He has recorded every number from my phone to his. He even smells my underwear. Is this normal behavior or does he need help?"

Your fiance is definitely a paranoid man and his behavior is not normal at all. If possible, he needs professional help immediately, and definitely before the wedding.

I am assuming, though, that you have no history of cheating that he is aware of. If that is the case, he is definitely a person who does not trust you and as you might know, trust is the foundation of any relationship. I am in a happy marriage and my wife and I have private email accounts and do not monitor each other's phone conversations. Obviously, we have a simple rule about telling each other when we will be back at home (so that if one can make sure that the other is well) but there is no need to report where we are at every point of time. We also have separate phones and pocket money. I have never abused that trust and I am confident that neither has she.

So my suggestion for you would to be ask him to get help and put your wedding plans on hold. He may turn out to be a crazy husband and will make your life hell for you.