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Matt writes, "I like your idea of giving a
spa certificate as a
gift. However, my wife is already a spa addict.
What I would like to do is to give her a plastic surgery gift - to be precise, a gift certificate for both
labiaplasty and
vaginoplasty. I think she badly needs it and we
will both benefit from the changes. Can I do it? What is the best way to do this right?
Indeed, plastic surgery has become so mainstream that not only are we willing to undergo it we now talk about it as if it is like trying a new dish at a local restaurant. So would cosmetic surgery make a perfect gift for your partner? According to a survey in the UK, as many as 2 million British feel that their partners’ looks could be improved. A similar number would consider buying partners a cosmetic procedure as a gift but half would be offended at idea! So you are not alone in paying for your wife's procedure.
But people like you who are considering giving a
cosmetic
surgery procedure as a gift should also take note of how to give this sort of gift. "Our research also revealed that nearly half of those asked would be offended if their partner bought them cosmetic surgery as a gift," stated Matt Clegg of Evolence (a manufacturer of
collagen-like
filler) that sponsored the study. "Perhaps this is one of those gifts that should be discussed first rather than sprung on the partner!"
 As you will appreciate, any time you are giving a gift of this type you are also sending an indirect message about the problem that exists. The same problem lies with giving gift certificates for weight loss programs. While we all welcome new clothes, chocolates, and electronic goods, but most of us do take offense when someone offers to pay for improving our looks (assuming that others think we do not look good).
So how to present the gift?
Talk to her first. Explain to her
why your relationship will improve if she has the procedure. Do not be critical but emphasize the positives. My expectation is that she will be delighted with the gift.
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