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Fashionable
at any age
Stay attractive for your partner
Tanya in Columbus, Ohio, writes, “I feel very unattractive; I have
gained
a lot of weight since the
birth of my two children. Although my husband is also overweight, I am afraid he does not like me any more.
He hardly touches me and
pays no attention to
me. I do not see any other
problem in our
marriage but this attitude of my husband is
causing me a lot of pain. I am busy all
day and also take care of the kids. I have
not time for being fashionable. What can I do?" It is normal to gain weight after having kids, or better said, not to
lose enough weight after
pregnancy. You should try to be at your right weight not only for your husband, but also for yourself, your health, and to be an example to your kids. Once you take the
decision to lose weight this is easy to do and you will need to adapt to a new healthier life style. Contrary to what many people believe, a healthier lifestyle does not mean that you have to go hungry. Personally, my
favorite
diet, even if you do not follow it strictly, is the
South Beach Diet. The reason I like it is because it is healthy. So if you
want to lose weight you should think about it too: it is a good idea and
you can do it.
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for husband who needs to lose weight)
In the meantime, perhaps, you are a bit sensitive as well. After a few years, most
marriages tend to cool down
somewhat and both partners have to
bring romance, passion and adventure back. Generally women are better at this than men. So you can try to have
dates with your
husband, do something different with the kids, and try to dedicate time to your relationship. A lot of mothers get so immersed in their kids that they forget the rest of their life.
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And last but not the least; you should be taking care of
yourself and try to be fashionable. We know it is difficult, but it is important. Check your
lingerie. Is it
fashionable and pretty? Does it look good on you? Is your
nightwear sexy or are you using old tee shirts to sleep
in (please do not do this)? And how are you taking care of yourself? Are you nails pretty? Are your feet soft? What about your
skin? When you are with your husband, are you always dressed in a track suit (or as my husband calls them “monkey suits”!)? You do not have to look
ready for the red
carpet, but you should feel pretty most of the
time and have a wardrobe that is fashionable and modern.
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You might be thinking “I do not have time”, but let me tell you, this might be more important than other chores. If you are not happy with yourself you may not have the energy to make others happy, including your husband.
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