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It
is normal that the passion in a
marriage or relationship will go down
somewhat with time and as we get
bogged down with kids/home/personal
finances, etc. In reality,
we have a lot of
bored housewives. However, I meet
couples all the time that look as if
they got married yesterday. Even
with half-a-dozen kids or having
financial problems, these couples
continue to have a great time by doing
a whole bunch of fun activities as a
couple. In this article, I will
discuss some of these things that
couples do, particularly those that
don't cost a whole lot.
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 Entertain
friends and family at home: You
are probably thinking that not only
are these people crazy, but I am crazy
too. And how can this be a fun
activity for couples? Well, the
actual event is a lot of fun because
you get to
meet friends/family or
sometimes totally new people, there is
a lot of fun actually planning the
event. For instance, we have
started to do a theme party (e.g.
Mardi Gras theme party or "Dress as your
favorite movie star") each month,
we invite only couples (no kids
allowed), and the planning seems to go
on for at least three weeks. The
decorations, the menu, the games, the
music, etc. is complicated enough to
give my wife and I enough to do.
We shop together, we research all
kinds of stuff, and then we cook the
dishes before the actual party to make
sure that we can cook them the night
of the party. (Related
article: Fondue
party for couples) |
 Spoil
your partner for one day:
This is how it works. Each
Saturday, I do whatever my wife wants
me to do and I also think of other
ways to spoil her. She does the
same on Sundays. We might change
the days if there is a long weekend or
holiday or if something else is
happening but one day a week we just
try to make each other feel
special. And it can get pretty
wild and is a lot of fun. So it
is up to you how imaginative we can
get (e.g. I had to learn how to put
nail polish on my wife's toes since I
promised to do anything that she asked
me to). (Related article: Day
of spa treatments for couples)
Find
a common interest and absorb yourself
in it: Now mind you
that it is not going to be easy.
Even though we tend to marry people
that we have so much in common with,
men and women still do not like the
same things. For example, while
both my wife and I are passionate
readers, we like very different kinds
of books. But we have found a
compromise. Since she tends to
like softer books (inspirational,
personal growth, motivation, etc.)
while I am an avid reader of business
books, we have made a decision to read
one book each month that is easy on
the brain. And we read it
together. Sometimes she reads
out loud and at other times I
do. We talk about it, we share
our opinions, and tell stories that
come to our mind. You can do the
same. Just pick what you both
like (How
to have fun as a couple) and are willing to make slight
adjustments to make it fun for both of
you.
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