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 What happens in a relationship over time?
Any
relationship is based on mutual attractions and needs. However, these needs change over time (in the beginning it is physical attraction and the social pressure to be in a relationship that define our needs; over time, it is
companionship that is fulfilling is what we need) and our attraction for someone may decline over time because of a variety of reasons (the partner is no longer physically attractive, the partner has changed as a person and is no longer as much fun to be around as s/he used to be, etc.). In addition to that as time passes, we get too absorbed in the normal routines of life that we forget something very important: our relationship.
(Related article: Creating
magic in a relationship)
How to bring back the happiness in a relationship?
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Admit to yourself that both you and your partner have changed and will change and there is nothing wrong with it. It is much better to share it honestly with your partner how you are changing so that your partner can continually develop a better understanding of the change and can respond accordingly.
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Just because there are other "attractive" people around and are trying to attract you, it does not mean that you should let that happen. You must do whatever is needed to be
attractive to your partner and try to find points of attraction in your partner. If you need to
lose a few pounds or
change your wardrobe or
develop a more positive
attitude, you need to do it for the sake of the relationship and your happiness.
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Do some research on
what is not right with your relationship and act to make it better. There is a lot of help out there on every possible problems that couples face (and it is not possible to cover them all in this article). If it is physical attraction or emotional differences or something else, diagnose it yourself or with the help of a counselor and work on it.
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