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Importance
of communication in a marriage
How to deal with a shy
spouse?
By Pierre Coda
Dave in Louisville, Kentucky, writes, “I have been married a short while but my wife never seems to find the time to
dress attractively or
initiate intimacy between us. If I don’t take the initiative, then we will probably never be
intimate. I love her and want our
married life to be as romantic as possible. I guess I need to step back,
stop all the nice things and just let Nature run its course, but this goes against my creed. What do I do?”
(Related article: Communication
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Yes, we are aware of this problem among many couples during the first few years of their marriage, particularly if they have not had the chance to know each other very well prior to marriage. Based on the work that
I have done with many of my clients, while it is not something for you to panic about, you need to deal with it right away. Since you have been married for such a short time, if you do not look at the deeper
issues involved, things might only get worse. What we have found from our work is that it is in such marriages that
adultery and
divorces happen. You will not be satisfied and will go someplace else, and who knows what she is thinking. So don't just hope that a miracle will change the situation. You need to take a series of steps to make your marriage 'normal'. |
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