What does it take to have a strong marriage?

Tips for saving your marriage

By Pierre Coda

In the previous part of the article on strong marriages, we looked at how women can play an important role in building foundations of a strong marriage.  We also looked at first two tips, that is, not taking him for granted and giving him his space.  Here are the remaining three tips for a strong marriage:  (Related article:  How to have a great night with your partner?)

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3.  Give him all the intimacy that he wants

Believe it or not it is the advice that grandmothers have always given but it has been forgotten over the years.  A man has only a finite capacity to perform  in bed and as long as he is somewhere close to his capacity, it is very unlikely that he will seek it elsewhere.  Only when he feels that he is not getting enough, he is likely to actively seek it elsewhere or be tempted easily.  And when I say 'all that he wants', I just don't mean frequency.  I also include 'type'.  While you need to discuss certain things as a couple and come to a reasonable compromise, you still need to make sure that he gets what he likes.  I understand why it might be difficult for you to do everything that he wants, you should not forget that a couple needs to satisfy their requirements in a mutually acceptable manner.  Most men that I speak to say that they are willing to come to some kind of a compromise but what really turns them off is an absolute NO without even an attempt to try something new and come to a compromise.  Many of these men were very frustrated with their relationships, causing great harm to the relationship in either case.  Whether you will let him have the freedom to go elsewhere for his needs is a decision you need to make.  Some women have looked the other way when their men have opted to go elsewhere in such cases.  While I do not necessarily endorse this behavior, you need to think what you need to do if you are faced with such a situation.