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What does it
take to have a strong marriage?
Believe it or not, the
woman is the foundation of a strong marriage
 I
set
out to find the secret of what allows some women to keep their
relationships happy and strong for decades.
I interviewed dozens of
couples that are very satisfied with their relationships.
It did not surprise me that there were so many similarities
among 'happy' couples and the women showed several common traits. Again,
results of my research may not be valid for all situations and you
are welcome to ignore what you do not agree with or find
irrelevant. You need to look at your specific situation and determine
what is best for you and him (Related link: How
to create magic in your relationship. Outsiders like me can only help both of you think about the
issues and provide you with an opportunity to talk to a third
person without getting emotional, but in the end you need to fight
it out together. Below are the five basic principles of a
solid relationship:
1.
Do not take him for granted
These
women think of him as their 'latest boyfriend' all the time and
that means that they never relax the standards for their behavior.
For them it is always like the first time.
So all the way from dressing up for him whenever he sees
you to having some quality intimate
time, they always do their best.
2.
Give him his space
Yes,
you might feel that you own him now that he is married to you but
give him his space and freedom.
Men do not like to feel that they are trapped and once they
feel that way they resent everything that reminds them of the
trap. Let them hang
out with other guys without you (whether it is golf or fishing or
drinking or even going to enjoy some skydiving), let him
have his space at home (if he needs a private room for himself, and
if possible, let him have it or if space is an issue, he might just
want a shelf or a locker that he knows will not be touched by
anyone but him), and finally, let him feel that he was part of the
decision. Most
enlightened men do not believe in making all the decision
themselves any more but they still feel bad that a decision was
imposed on them.
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