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I want to cheat on my wife
but also very afraid
If she finds out, we will get a divorce |
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Gary, a
married man in a sexless marriage, is currently on a six
month overseas assignment. During a
business trip with a
female colleague, he found out that she too was in a
sad marriage with a husband who constantly
travels. As they found comfort in each other's stories, they
felt a strong connection. She even invited him to spend more
time with her during the weekends as he had nothing much to do
anyway and her husband was gone for months at a time. At one
occasion at her apartment after an afternoon
 of
drinking, lunch, and
chatting, they almost ended up
making love but were too drunk to do it. He writes, "I may
have avoided it last time but when we meet next time, it is
going to happen. This was totally different experience for me,
because I am with
someone other than my wife, for the first time. Actually she
will be the second woman in my life that I might
make love to because I am married to my
highschool sweetheart. I was raised as a very religious
kind, and I always avoided
adultery. My fear is that this maybe a difficult
secret to keep and if my wife learned about it, this would
be total disaster. I have heard of
couples who have divorced after the husband cheated. This is
happening to me....oh my God. This is a one of the biggest sins.
What should I do? I really
want to be intimate with her but I am so terrified of being
caught." |
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Extramarital affairs are
not easy to handle and only a certain type of man or
woman can manage them. Based on what you are telling me,
unfortunately, you are not one of those guys. Therefore,
I recommend that you stop this process immediately, and
forget about whatever happened. As you previously said,
you only have a short time before you will be reunited
with your wife. Once you are with her, with the help of
a
marriage therapist, you should try to
reignite passion in your relationship. You are not
the only one with this problem; many couples have
problems like this and they are eventually able to have
a
great
marriage, both in and out of bed.
I am sure that
stopping this affair is not going to be easy at this
point but I want you to do it because that is the only
way you can live the rest of your life without guilt and
not
jeopardize your marriage. |
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Related:
How to erase evidence of cheating |
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