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While the media often portrays African Americans as the "bad guys," you actually have many African-American families that resemble the
"Cosby" - wealthy, educated, loving, and like everyone else. In fact, I think it is somewhat strange (that is, if it is true) that many people still believe in the old stereotypes of black people as poor, un-educated, and "screwed-up." Then there are other stereotypes of African Americans as being
great in bed with
enormous performance
stamina. I know all this because I am a great example of an educated African American who happens to be, well, just like any other man when it comes to
adventures in the bedroom.
I have never been poor in my life. I grew up in one of the richest neighborhoods in America (Bloomfied Hills, Michigan). I lived in a house which cost over half a million U.S. Dollars. I went to excellent schools where I received a top-notch education. I am currently a college student. I have been on the honors list since my first semester.
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Nevertheless, not all black men are
great
lovers. I can prove this to you without much fuss: First of all, to be a great lover means to
please your
partner. What other definition can there be for a great lover? Does being creative make you a great lover? Maybe, but only if you physically and emotionally
satisfy your
partner? Does having a lot of "stamina" make you a great lover? Maybe, but only if you satisfy your partner? Does doing exotic things make someone a great lover? Maybe, but, again, only if you satisfy your partner. Now, since all people are not satisfied in the same way, it is impossible for all black men to be great lovers. Why? Because
eventually a woman will
meet a black man who does not like the things that such a woman likes. Therefore, no matter how creative, energetic, or exotic such a man is, if he cannot satisfy the particular needs of his partner, then to her, he is not a great lover. (Related:
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So what does it all mean? Simply, that a woman should not date a black man and expect him to fit a stereotype. Not all of us are bad guys and neither are we capable of
blowing you away in the
bedroom. In the end, any relationship is all about the
chemistry between two people and once the chemistry is right, magic
happens.
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