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2.
Do something outrageous
This
comes with some degree of risk because you might freak out your
date if he is the non-adventurous type.
If he recoils in horror, you will need to try
with some other guy,
but if not, he will have a good laugh and never forget to call you back the next
day. Some of the
other suggestions that I have heard are not to wear a critical
item of clothing (no blouse under a jacket, no
underwear, etc.), kiss him deeper than he expects, or anything else that you
can think of that will leave a mark. (Related:
Dating by married women)
3.
Bring out the special qualities that you have
It
is amazing how many women forget to mention what they are really
good at. If you
speak another language, have lived in a foreign
country, do voluntary work for the local prison, or have camped in
desert during summer, make sure that you talk about it.
When you do that, people think of you as someone unique,
and therefore, interesting. You
do not even have to be funny if you are interesting.
Being funny is hard for most people and if you are not
genuinely funny, you might simply make a fool of yourself.
However, if you have interesting stories to tell, most
people will shut up and listen to you.
A client of mine went to Central America for one year and
worked with street children who were addicted to drugs.
She always had interesting stories of her stay there;
whether it was food, her local colleagues, or sometimes, sad
stories of some of the kids. (Related:
Dating
during holidays)
4.
Listen, listen, listen
I
cannot emphasize it strongly enough.
A lot of men have the misconception that women talk a lot;
you need to make sure that you are listening enough.
You will need to strike a delicate balance here and watch
carefully what kind of a man he is. Many men do not talk much and with them, you will not only
need to do a lot of talking but also make them talk. You can start off by picking a topic that you like and then
ask them small questions. This
is truly an art and you must try to get good at it.
Once you get a simple answer, you will need to ask
follow-up questions to make him talk.
For example, if his one-word answer to "So what did
you play in college?" is Hockey, ask more about his team,
what position did he play at, which tournaments did he participate
in, where all did he travel, etc.
You can include your comments and stories in between so
that it does not come across as an interrogation.
The ultimate goal here is to get him to think, "Oh she
really is so interested in ME," when you part at the end of
the date.
(Related:
Pheromones for attraction)
5.
Be nice
No
human being will not be charmed by someone who is nice.
Keep out negative talk of all types.
If you hold particularly strong views on some topics (e.g.
politics, religion, etc.), it is best to change the topic
politely. The other
thing to watch out for is arguments.
Everyone is entitled to his views and there is no reason
for you to try to change anyone's opinion.
It is perfectly fine to share your views on a controversial
subject without making the other person feel that he is wrong or
that you will evaluate him based on his opinions.
And finally, do not embarrass him.
No one is perfect; all of us make mistakes; and we can
sometimes get our facts wrong but nothing is worse than feeling
embarrassed. Bunny in Fort
Myers, Florida, puts it very nicely, "All I can say is that
women forgot how to be sexy, pretty and smart. I am a professional
model and have been for 30 years. At 58 being still sexy, pretty
and smart works. My boyfriend will love me forever if I continue
to treat him with the class and respect he deserves. He is
handsome and a born leader. I love him very much and will continue
that love. Women need to wake up, be sexy and have a love for fun.
Do things for and with your man and man let him know how great he
is and how much YOU love him because someone else will."
Recommended
links: How to make a man commit to
the relationship?
Value
of guy friends for women How
to meet a date in a chat room?
Date within your comfort zone
Love, not age, matters in relationship
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