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Dating for
BBW
Myra writes, "I
am a
successful woman with a professional
degree, respectable job (I make close to six
figures), but like millions of others, I happen
to have
more pounds on my body than
I would like.
I am
perpetually on a diet, I
exercise as well,
but while my
weight has stabilized, it is not
going down. I am considering
plastic
surgery at this time. What frustrates me
the most is that I am single and men (even
obese
men) run away
from me as soon as they know my weight.
What can I do?"
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It is a problem that
many women are facing and it simple goes on show
that we live
in a macho society that puts more
barriers for women. Frustrating as it is, it
also shows that women are always being evaluated for
their physical beauty rather than their inner beauty
and the achievements that they have made in life.
While changing is happening - though slowly - in the
meantime, you will need to work within the
restrictions that you have. I have found that
if you follow the simple tips below, you will find
success in dating the
right kind of men and maybe
eventually
find your partner: Open your mind:
If you have an image of a certain type of man that you are
looking for, it is time to review it. So you might
want to include
younger,
older,
divorced, widowed,
other
races, single, only moderately successful, reasonably good
looking men in your list if you have not already done so.
What I am trying to say is that the more open-minded you
are about who your partner can be, greater the chance of
success.
Give yourself a makeover:
What I have found is that many
plus size women also stop
paying attention to
how they look because they can never
find the right clothes that fit or they just have very
low
self esteem. No matter what size you wear, there is
no excuse to being frumpy or shabby.
Stylish women -
no matter what size - always
attract the attention of men.
Get out there: If you are
hoping that some man will simply fall head over heels in
love with you, forget it.
Dating is work and you
will need to do it yourself. While our research
shows that
online dating is probably the
most effective
way to find a relationship these days, you must also try
other opportunities. For instance, ask friends and
family members to introduce you to someone they know,
attend local singles event (though I would say avoid the
bars - they are just a waste of time unless you are
looking for a one-night stand), go to
parties (yeah,
sometimes you might feel awkward going alone to a party
but the reality is that you never know who you will end up
meeting), join a local hobby group/volunteer organization,
and try to do whatever you can get socially active.
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