Story of an American woman's
am an American woman and my boyfriend just happens to be Asian.
He grew up in Taiwan, and throughout our relationship, and it is
still early on in the relationship, I have fallen in love with
that Asian part of him. I am sharing my story to demonstrate
that not only do people have to
open their eyes and hearts to other races, they also should
set aside any stereotypes that they might have about them.
to men that I went to college with, my
Asian boyfriend is very quiet, and even more so in social
situations, but can be quite outgoing, fun, and cheerful when he
is with me or with my friends. He is affectionate and caring
towards me and that is what that really matters to me.
I DO know that I am his first
American girlfriend; his other previous two girlfriends have
been Asian, and spoke Chinese,
Japanese or English. But I also know that I am the first
girlfriend to move in with him as well. He is not
dating another Asian girl, and many of the social gatherings
are very much Asian dominated. The places we go to hang out are
all Asian-dominated as well, and so on.
||And although I
have noticed that I have seen
Asian women with American men, I have not so far seen more
than five Asian men/American women couples. That could very well
be because older Asian people still ask me and my boyfriend when
we are getting married - a somewhat awkward question for me
since it is still early on in the relationship and I would like
to take that decision myself rather than be guided by someone
else. I must confess though that these elders always make me
feel a part of everything, although a few younger Asian people
and couples have given us the eye.
in all though, we are happy with each other, love each other
very much, and very soon I shall be meeting his mother who is
traveling half way across the globe to see her sons (and me).
I think the
stereotype of the
Asian men being quiet and less outgoing may be true on SOME
points, but those who are more willing to be "American" may also
be more outgoing like American men. My boyfriend tells me though
that Asian women are not as willing to go all out to
seduce a man, and neither are men, but American men will go
all out to aggressively seduce an Asian woman. Asian men find it
a little harder to do so and that explains to some extent why
there are so many American men dating
Asian women while the versa versa is not so common.
advice to American women who are attracted to an Asian is to
just go for it with an open mind. Asian culture is changing and
once you make an attempt, you will find these men are pretty
open to learning more about you and changing for your sake. It
is simply not true that all Asian men are macho, often
commit adultery, and
mistreat women. I have found my Taiwanese boyfriend to be
the best that I have had and would say Yes in a heartbeat when
he proposes to me.
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