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It is very natural for overweight women to feel
self-conscious about their weight and even have
lower self-esteem due to that. In most cases, it means that these women do not have the
confidence to approach men the right way or they might come across as less attractive since low self esteem makes them less desirable.
Remember, beauty is not everything.
Even supermodel
Christie Brinkley got four divorces.
Nadine is one of those women. She is about 40 lbs. more than her desirable weight and it makes her extremely
self-conscious when she is in a romantic setting. “A man that I am attracted to flirts with me all the time. However, I did not do anything beyond responding to him in a
flirtatious
manner. Now I see him flirting with another woman who goes to the same gym as both of us. I don’t know if they are dating or not yet but he used to hug and talk to me but now he talks to me in a way as if he is making fun of me. My question is
if I should stop flirting with him and ignore him totally or continue to flirt and see what happens? Please Help!” she writes.
It is very likely that you are imagining a lot of these things since you are
jealous - a very natural (and good) feeling at this time. What might have happened though is that when you guys were merely flirting and you did not respond in a way that clearly indicated that you were also interested in a relationship, he might have interpreted is as a signal that you merely wanted to flirt. So he has all the right in the world to
pursue other
women. (Related:
Janet Jackson was supported by
Jermaine Dupri when she was trying to
lose weight)
Of course, he may actually be attracted to this other woman more than he was attracted to you, and in that case, you may have lost an opportunity.
 In any case, unless you confirm otherwise, you should continue to flirt with him and even give hints of
going out on a date to him. If he is not dating her, chances are you can still have him. If he is dating her already or is interested in a relationship with her, then he would tell you so.
And regarding your being self-conscious of your weight, don't let it stop you from living life. Indeed,
losing weight is good for you not only in terms of
making you more
attractive, but obesity is also bad for your overall
health. Therefore, while you work on
a weight loss
program, you should also look at your
positives. That should give a boost to your self-esteem. Make a
note of your attractive points (e.g. your hair or smile or your personal style) and emphasize those rather than get too bogged down with what is not good about you. And when you approach a man with that that level of confidence, you will come across as someone who is charming, secure, and fun – attributes that almost all men appreciate.
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