European girls and Japanese guys

Is a relationship possible?

Lena writes, "I am a 23 years old Italian girl, who lives and works in London. Three month ago I started to realize that I've got a natural attraction towards Japanese boys. I often see that we smile at each other and I'm sure that we feel the sparks, but we are always too shy to take the first step. I don't mind to go to a boy and start to talk with him about anything. But I've only done this with Europeans. I don't know how a Japanese will respond if I approached him. Maybe they will be scared of me, or wonder how can a girl like me love them by heart. When I see into a Japanese boy's eyes I can see the emotions and the intelligence at the same time. I try to go to events where there are Japanese men but it hasn't been successful. I really would like to date them or make friendship with someone. I'm so close to putting myself on a Japanese dating website. Please help."

I think you have nailed the problem. A lot of Japanese guys who have spoken to me are totally shocked to know that a non-Japanese girl finds them attractive. So even if they are interested in a non-Japanese girl they never gather the courage to approach her. So the first thing you will have to do is to not wait for him to approach you but approach him. There is no special technique to approach Japanese guys except that you do not want to come across as too aggressive. Just being sweet and cute will do the magic. You can start off by asking him to introduce you to Japanese food or music or whatever else that you are interested in. Hopefully, as the friendship develops he will see that you are interested in something more than that.

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