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The
women come from Karachi (Pakistan),
Yokohama (Japan), Vienna (Austria),
Barcelona (Spain), Flint, Michigan
(USA), San Antonio, Texas (USA), and
Portland, Maine (USA). So
what is the secret to finding a
husband? In
my discussions with men, I often hear
them complaining that they can't find
a woman who would want to marry and
settle down to have children and raise
a family. So it is not true that
men do not like to get married.
In my opinion, what is happening is
that we have become more picky now
since technology allows us to
search
from a larger pool of candidates (so
we keep looking for that
perfect
match, that truly doesn't exist) and
two, despite the advances in
technology, there is no perfect system
yet that can bring two people on this
planet who are made for each other.
(Related article: Go
slow in online dating)
Having
said that, there are still ways in
which women can
find a man to
marry. Based on my interviews
with dozens of couples, I have found
the following simple techniques work
almost all the time:
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Make it known to
everyone that you are looking for
a relationship that will lead to
wedding bells. If you use an
online dating website, clearly
state this in your personal so
that men who are not interested in
a serious, marriage-minded woman
can go elsewhere.
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Be reasonable in
your expectations. First of
all, take a look at yourself
objectively. If you are not
the prettiest woman on the planet
or
do not have a lot of wealth or
lack a great job, chances are that
you will need to make
compromises. Unfortunately,
that is how life is. You can
always make a list of what you are
willing to compromise and what
not. For instance, you can
say that you are willing to marry
a not-so-good-looking man if he
has a good job and is otherwise a
gentleman. Once you do this,
your pool of available men will
expand significantly.
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When you start
the relationship, think of it as
the first step in a traditional
marriage - that is getting to know
each other. So stop behaving
as you would on a casual
date. That is why it is not
a good idea to fool around.
Take the time to really get to
know each other so that you can
make a honest assessment if this
man is marriage-material or not.
(Related article:
How to catch attention of man)
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Once you find a
man who meets most (if not all)
the attributes that you developed
on your list, marry him (Love,
not age, matters in relationship). The
world is full of wonderful men
(and there is that perfect man out
there somewhere) but it is not
possible to find him.
Marriage is a lot of work even for
those women who thought they found
the perfect man. If you both
are
committed to making your
marriage work, you will do just
fine with this approach.
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