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Dating
by married people
May be needed but can get very
complicated
 Heather,
who is in an abusive relationship, is
attracted to a man who treats her
like a princess. "I love photography,
and have met someone, who asked me to
go with him sometimes to book
signings, and I would take his
pictures. He does
live together with someone. He has
a lot of respect for me. He tries to
pay me back for what I do with my
pictures. He always praises me that I
am the best photographer. He calls me
almost everyday even when is
traveling. He even sometimes comes to
meet where I work during lunch time,
and we sit and talk in the park. I
have had feelings for him for about 6
months. I think he has feelings for me
too, but can't express those himself.
He has kissed me several times. He
hardly stays home with his girlfriend
and does not want to marry her. We
love being with each other, and
love to talk. He wants to be with
me all the time it seems. I wish I had
met him years ago, and I wish I
knew where he has been all my life. He
really is a great person in my
opinion. He is very friendly with
people, and very kind hearted. Do you
think he loves me?"
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Indeed,
it is a very
sweet and romantic love story.
Having said that, I would not be
surprised that some idiot would call
your behavior as
cheating - I don't because I think
that you are married to a man who does
not deserve your love, and therefore,
adultery is acceptable.
Based
on what you have described to me,
though, it appears that he loves you
but what causes me a little concern is
that if he loved you, why would he not
express it to you? Why would he not
want to go beyond that? It is
understandable that he knows
you are married and he too has a
woman at home, but is there a
possibility that he just
does not want to commit - neither
to the woman that he lives with, nor
to you. Do you think he just wants to
have the best of both worlds? You say
that he is very kind to everyone and
just a very
friendly guy - does he have many
female admirers like you with whom he
might be just too friendly? I know
that many writers and creative types
often
attract women like magnets. |
And
then comes the question What do you
want? Would you like to leave you
husband and have a
real relationship with this man?
It looks that this man is not looking
to get married - maybe you can live
together or maybe he will marry you
because he might see a
better match with you than the
woman he lives with. Or do you just
want a
close friend and
get the love that your husband
doesn't give you? In that case it is
OK to have the sort of relationship
that you have with this man. But
what if your husband finds out?
Will that create problems for you?
Are
you ready to
get out of your abusive relationship?
While I think it is time, you have to
ponder all these questions before you
decide to either
have a relationship with him or
focus on
fixing your marriage.
Recommended
reading:
American wives depressed in their
relationships
Bored wives
How to be a good husband
How to become a mistress
Scarlett Johansson likes open
relationships
Revive relationship with an old flame
Middle age crush What
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