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Howard
writes, "There is a
married woman in my office, but
she keeps on telling me that she is
not happy with the marriage,
argues with her husband, and that
she is
lonely. I notice that she always
stares at me, and when I notice this,
she gives me a really nice smile. She
even hugged me the other day, but she
keeps on giving me
mixed signals, one minute she
talks to me about other men she likes,
then she stares and smiles at me, or
tells me that she thinks she is ugly,
or tells me if I think her jewelry is
nice. A few months ago, she even
suggested we
have an affair, and she laughed
but I don't know if she was joking or
not. I was wondering, if she likes me,
even though she is not single, or is
she just being friendly. I wouldn't
mind a relationship with her."
(Related article:
Flirting techniques used by women to
give signals)
 Now
based on what you have described it
seems that the
woman is very interested in you.
Remember though that she is married
and may not want to leave her husband,
but may still
want an extramarital relationship.
That could be the reason for mixed
signals. And as she hinted, she might
be looking for a
casual affair rather than a real
relationship. Is this what you want?
If so, she may be the person to target
but first check your office policy -
workplace romance is typically a
NO in most cases, particularly when
one of the persons is in a supervisory
capacity over the other. A lot of
people also feel uncomfortable
dating women already in a relationship.
It causes complications and
heartbreaks thought
adultery may be acceptable under
certain circumstances.
And
if you think you are OK on all these
issues, then go ahead and give it a
shot - I would suggest that you go out
on a date (without calling it a date -
for example, you could have a drink
after work on a day that you both
worked late on a project or if she has
the time on a weekend, you could go to
a museum or any place of mutual
interest but make sure that you find
out what she likes and suggest to her
as if she may not be able to come but
you have an extra ticket). Hopefully,
it will work out great.
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