be a good mistress?
Tips on getting what you want the
is in a
relationship with man who wants to
have her as a mistress. "He likes and
cares for me. He puts me up in an
apartment, sees me when he wants, but
otherwise leaves me alone. How to
keep this man without having any
problems? I really need someone to
help me pay for college and I have had
a rather rough life for years. What is
it that I need to bring to the table?
How do I stop myself from developing
feelings for him? How could I make him
have feelings for me? How do I get him
to come around more? How do I get him
open up? He is so secretive, and
discreet, and he is always testing me.
How should I
handle this relationship?"
are more tips to be a good mistress:
he may not have said so, you are his
mistress. He just wants someone to
have fun with without the drama of
a relationship. As long as you
understand that you are in a
relationship with benefits (this is
not a place to discuss the ethics of
it), do not spoil the whole thing by
either trying to become sentimental or
forcing him or expecting him to.
- He is not playing
games - he means business. He
realizes that you have a
need for money, he is providing
it, and expects things in return. If
you don't, then he will find it
elsewhere. He is a gentleman to say
that you can live life the way you
want and just be yourself but if he
doesn't get what he wants, he will
how to keep this man? You know
what, that is something that he
needs to worry about - how to keep
you? The reason he does all this for
you is because he likes you so much
that he doesn't even mind the
expense. So he will tell you exactly
what he needs in return - so as long
as you meet most of his
expectations, there isn't much you
need to worry about.
- You are right to
not want to have feelings for him -
this is not a
relationship based on emotions.
He needs you and
dump you whenever that need is
over. And that is why it is also a
bad idea to push him to become
emotional with you. Generally
speaking when a relationship is
based on money, emotions are rare.
So just enjoy what you are getting,
get on your feet, and see how long
it lasts - if you guys
fall in love, great, if not,
then you shouldn't regret it. There
is a reason why he is so secretive,
discreet, and quiet - he wants to
keep this relationship a secret from
the world and you would be a fool to
make it difficult for him. So use
him for what he is good for because
he is using you as well.
- Regarding asking
him for things - ask for what you
genuinely need but don't try to
screw him. He is no idiot. He will
figure out that you are trying to
take advantage of the situation. So
ask him about things that you need,
but don't ask him for
designer handbags (if he gives
you of his own wish - then thank
him). You do not want to come across
as greedy. In my opinion, if you
trust him, he will trust you too.
Always do the right thing.
- And finally,
don't overspend. Live conservatively
save some money for a difficult time.
Remember that he could stop paying
you any time he wants and you will
be on your own.
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