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Older men
and younger women
Do such relationships
work?
By Pierre
Coda
For reasons highlighted in several
stories that we have done on the subject of couples with significant age difference, our research is clearly demonstrating
that age doesn't matter any more when it comes to developing a
healthy relationship.
In fact, experience can actually enhance the
quality of a relationship. (Related:
Story of old man dating young woman)
Our research shows that with the rising divorce rates and increasingly
higher acceptance of
gay marriages, American perceptions of a relationship are changing. We no longer think that every
relationship should result in a
marriage (to
have children and live happily thereafter). Many young people in our survey compared relationships to jobs in today's economy. They are not
permanent and one should make the best use of a relationship
as long as it lasts.
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Does
having an older partner creates problems for women? A 27 year old woman says, "I recently became involved with a man 18 years older than me
(Couple
with 41 year age gap), and it is
the most intense relationship that I have ever been in! I have always
liked older men, but this is the largest age difference for me yet...and I love it! It
is a whole new experience
making love to someone who is more interested in your pleasure than his own...makes me want to do more for him too." Most women, whatever their age, have traditionally
preferred an
older man in the bedroom. "Younger men may look cute but older men have the
experience to
satisfy their partner, basically because
older men have learned to slow down", says Linda in
Las Vegas, Nevada. It is generally believed that younger men
only want to please themselves. Carol, who is in her late 40s and lives in Flint, Michigan, advises, "Don't lose your
attention for a
woman in her 40s
because she also has learned how to slow it down. They have become more comfortable with their bodies, which allows for
better performance. Also the belief that
women in their 40s are less active in the bedroom is just not true."
Michael Webb, the author of the best-selling book "Fifty
secrets of a blissful relationships"
agrees. In his opinion, it is not the age
difference that counts; it is the emotional chemistry
that makes all the difference to the quality of a
relationship. But things can still go wrong as
happened in the case of
Kate Hudson and Chris Robinson.
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Another lady, who is now happily married to someone her own age, tells us about her past romance. She said, "To be honest when I was 23 the guy I was seeing
at the time was 46 and I loved every minute of it. I used to greatly appreciate the fact that an older man was more interested in you
(Love,
not age, matters in relationship) than his own physical
pleasure. The friendship, the attention, and the maturity of an older man were a treasure to me. I have a sister and many cousins who are married to older
men and it works just fine."
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What
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