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Katie had a crush on a guy that she knew for a while. She says, "I was
friends with him
first. As I was getting to know him better (through time) by conversations and frequent meetings at hangouts, I started to get attracted to him. As a result, I started to get nervous around him and felt very awkward towards him as a result. I told a friend (who
I supposedly trusted) that I liked him. As a result, other people around me came to know what I thought
would remain a
secret. If others know, then he knows. I feel that people might make fun of him for that. Finally, I got the nerve to ask him to the prom and he said 'yes.' In my opinion, it felt like he had a horrible time at the prom. I tried getting closer to him through
slow dances but I felt very distant from him. As my friends went to go drop him off at his house I told him
"Hey, I'll walk you to your door," as I was planning to to give him a good night kiss. His reply was "I don't think that's such a good idea." I was devastated not only because
he rejected me but also because I wanted to thank him by going with me to the prom. Now when we meet at certain hangouts, things are definitely awkward between us. We don't even talk to each other. I think I scared him away. I still like him. What do I do," she asks.
I think this is what is going on. During
teenage
years, a lot of people are very shy and can get even more intimidated if they are teased by their close friends. I am guessing that he is being teased a lot by his
high
school friends and rather than boldly admitting that he likes you or is attracted to you, he is simply hoping that by denying the feelings and the claims from others, they will stop bugging him.
I am assuming that he likes you (probably a lot) since if that were not the case, he would not agree to go to the prom with you (unless he is such a loser that he could not find anyone else to go with).
I think what would be appropriate for you is to approach him bypassing your friends. In other words,
be more discreet about it. But first of all, you have to find out if still likes you and has not changed his mind.
To start off, one of the things that you should do is to send him a card thanking him for going to the prom with you. You can also mention that you had a great
time and it was very nice of him to make it a memorable evening for you. You can add that you cherish his
friendship and were wondering if he would like to
chat sometime over the phone or
online. If he does not even respond, then you have been a lady, and you should just let him alone and
move
on. If he gets back to you, then you can start a great relationship with him.
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