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Well, Renee is not alone. To varying degrees we are all shy. There is a lot of
help available for treating
shyness. Apart from making an effort yourself to seeking help of friend(s), you can also ask for help from a
therapist or
life coach. There are also books and videos for dealing with shyness.
Our previous article on female
shyness provides some useful
tips. But please do not bother with any non-prescription pills. If you really think that you want to take the medicine route, it is best to work with your doctor and get the right drugs. These crooks who sell all kinds of herbs for treating shyness are simply exploiting people like you.
Joan is also somewhat shy but on top of that she has
self-esteem
issues. "I have found someone very
attractive. I know he said I'm cute but I have bad luck when it comes to guys. I always do something stupid that drove them away. With this one, I do like him very much, and my heart jumps every time I see him. I am so shy that I can't really tell him how I feel about him neither through words nor through
body
language. I just avoid seeing him afraid that I will
disappoint him or let him down because he might find that I am not what he thinks I am. I want to get to know him but I'm scared to even approach. I do not know what to do and where to begin. Help me, please."
Like Renee, Joan is also looking for a
magic solution to her
shyness. First of all many shy people have a lot of negative energy around them. Stop saying that you have had bad luck before - it does not mean anything.
Secondly, shyness is also related to
low
self-esteem. Nothing to be
embarrassed about. You can easily build your confidence and boost your self esteem. If you are not
confident and
assertive, he will not get good feeling about you. It seems that he likes you the way you are; so do nothing to change or to fake. Just be yourself and do what your heart tells you. That will make you come across as someone who is simple, honest, and real. But you have to get the courage to tell him all this and let him know that you are interested. Nothing will happen till the other person knows that.
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