How to reduce shyness?

How to stop being shy?
Shy people have a tough time finding a relationship

Picture of a shy woman hiding her face with her arms. Blonde hair. Shy blue sweater. It seems that shyness can be a real problem when it comes to finding a relationship. When you are shy, you can not show your interest - and that is where the problem starts. Renee in California admits that she is shy and people around her tell her not to be shy but she can't seem to do much about it. "I need to clear my mind somehow...maybe there are non-prescription pills to help? And I think that maybe I might be uncomfortable with my voice. It is just not loud enough!"

Well, Renee is not alone. To varying degrees we are all shy. There is a lot of help available for treating shyness. Apart from making an effort yourself to seeking help of friend(s), you can also ask for help from a therapist or life coach. There are also books and videos for dealing with shyness. Our previous article on female shyness provides some useful tips. But please do not bother with any non-prescription pills. If you really think that you want to take the medicine route, it is best to work with your doctor and get the right drugs. These crooks who sell all kinds of herbs for treating shyness are simply exploiting people like you.

Joan is also somewhat shy but on top of that she has self-esteem issues. "I have found someone very attractive. I know he said I'm cute but I have bad luck when it comes to guys. I always do something stupid that drove them away. With this one, I do like him very much, and my heart jumps every time I see him. I am so shy that I can't really tell him how I feel about him neither through words nor through body language. I just avoid seeing him afraid that I will disappoint him or let him down because he might find that I am not what he thinks I am. I want to get to know him but I'm scared to even approach. I do not know what to do and where to begin. Help me, please."

Like Renee, Joan is also looking for a magic solution to her shyness. First of all many shy people have a lot of negative energy around them. Stop saying that you have had bad luck before - it does not mean anything.

Secondly, shyness is also related to low self-esteem. Nothing to be embarrassed about. You can easily build your confidence and boost your self esteem. If you are not confident and assertive, he will not get good feeling about you. It seems that he likes you the way you are; so do nothing to change or to fake. Just be yourself and do what your heart tells you. That will make you come across as someone who is simple, honest, and real. But you have to get the courage to tell him all this and let him know that you are interested. Nothing will happen till the other person knows that.

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