How to approach girls if I am shy?

I have a hard time holding a conversation

Justin writes, "I am 18 years old and I really love girls but the problem is I am too quiet and I don't really have the skill to hold up a conversation for too long with a girl. My other problem is that I am shy and while I can read a girl's body language I don't know how to approach her. Please help."

Girls are as scared of talking to guys as guys are. Yes, for vast majority of people it is not easy to talk to strangers. So understand that when you have approached a girl to even say hello, she is as nervous as you are, and therefore very understanding, and is herself trying to make it easy for you.

Except for a few mean girls, most of them appreciate when guys approach them. Most of them are overjoyed even to be asked a few basic questions and absolutely delighted to be asked out on a date.

When it comes to conversations, girls are no different than boys. What do you talk about with guys? You can talk about the same things with girls and the best way to find out what they like to talk about is to ask them. For instance, contrary to popular belief, many girls love to talk about sports or gadgets or cars or video games, but simply ask so that you don't bore them. In any case, if you two have nothing in common, it is better not to waste time because the friendship will go nowhere when you do not have common interests.

Girls are not some kind of crazy monsters who only want to embarrass men; on the contrary they want to be friends as much with guys as guys want. Treat them as equals and they will reciprocate.

So to get started, just treat girls like boys in the beginning. Forget about making them fall in love with you or beg you to marry them. Just talk to them as you would casually talk to guys. Don't even try to ask them out on a date or saying anything romantic. Before you can fall in love with a girl, you will need to learn to be friends with them, and the suggestion that I have given above will help you just chitchat with them and learn the basics of communication because most girls enjoy the company of guys with whom they can chat without the tension common in dating situations. At some point you will realize that you have run into a girl with whom you feel that special chemistry and you both will feel it. At that point when you ask her out, she will be delighted to accept.

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